"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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New to the Red Pill and perplexed already.

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So far still good, nothing jumping out at me. Defiantly fighting oneitis with her. She works, I work we don't overly text, she calls sometime I call sometimes. I did give her a small Christmas gift, she mentioned a certain cheesecake in convo 3-4 weeks before, so I gave her one. She was very receptive and even teared a bit!

Wednesday after date and passionate kissing I mentioned, I'm off lets go out this weekend, she eagerly agrees and said I need to double check my work schedule (er nurse and they are short staffed with covid)

I want to keep controlling the frame..... nothing has been confirmed since that night

A) Let her bring it back up?
B) send text or call her and say "I'm busy riding with my mtb friends in the morning, lets go for a hike and get tacos in the afternoon"

thoughts?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I have always said, you dont know what type girl/relationship you have until you have your first big fight or disagreement. Til then she can just be acting and pretending to be something shes not but when you fight you see her true colors and how she really feels about you deep down by how she handles it.
 

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So far still good, nothing jumping out at me. Defiantly fighting oneitis with her. She works, I work we don't overly text, she calls sometime I call sometimes. I did give her a small Christmas gift, she mentioned a certain cheesecake in convo 3-4 weeks before, so I gave her one. She was very receptive and even teared a bit!

Wednesday after date and passionate kissing I mentioned, I'm off lets go out this weekend, she eagerly agrees and said I need to double check my work schedule (er nurse and they are short staffed with covid)

I want to keep controlling the frame..... nothing has been confirmed since that night

A) Let her bring it back up?
B) send text or call her and say "I'm busy riding with my mtb friends in the morning, lets go for a hike and get tacos in the afternoon"

thoughts?
I lead. She follows or #next.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Don’t overthink things. You are analyzing everything to death. Enjoy her, enjoy yourself, have fun, laugh. Too much aloofness will backfire so don’t be contrived.

Sometimes you find a cool person you vibe with. Be the man & let her relax into being the woman. Don’t contort yourself into someone you aren’t.

Keep going as you are. Have fun and move forward.

Cheers
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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DEEZEDBRAH

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I am clearly in my head with this one! Great info
In your defense you've been nuked by girl power since birth. The old school pickup stuff is dated now as is the old Archives by Rooshv. The bare bones basic framework is still useful today. Mystery Method emphasis on compliance, preselection, 3sec rule among other insights. Doc Loves System emphasis on HER INTEREST LEVEL is key. Guage interest based on compliance.
 

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Advice from the old lady:

Don’t overthink things. You are analyzing everything to death. Enjoy her, enjoy yourself, have fun, laugh. Too much aloofness will backfire so don’t be contrived.

Sometimes you find a cool person you vibe with. Be the man & let her relax into being the woman. Don’t contort yourself into someone you aren’t.

Keep going as you are. Have fun and move forward.

Cheers
This is good advice.

Haha I think you are analyzing the fun out of all of this.

Things are going great. You like her. She likes you. Shes not playing games. I wouldn't look for problems when there are none.
 

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This is good advice.

Haha I think you are analyzing the fun out of all of this.

Things are going great. You like her. She likes you. Shes not playing games. I wouldn't look for problems when there are none.
I agree.

It's ok to have loose guidelines and red flags to look for but in cases like this, it doesn't help to over think and self sabotage yourself either.
 

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Op, definitely tap into the resource but exercise common sense. I took more from evo psych and actually getting girls. The red pill have experience but are not actively Infield or most are not. Personally, I rather learn from people who are in the game versus preaching in the comforts of their home with a fat or unattractive wife.
 

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You seem to be doing fine, but I think you need to stop thinking so much. The basic thing here is to avoid putting all your life's focus on here, and I'm feeling that a little bit. You MUST have your own life/frame that she can fit into, not the other way around.

One piece of advice here - nurses are always a little crazy (you should know this), and slightly crazy girls play the game more than anyone else. If you show weakness, she will drop your ass, tell all her friends and genuinely eat you alive. You better keep this on your terms.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Thanks everyone! I've kept my frame and realized I was overthinking everything with this one. I believe I was getting oneititis with her and refocused my attention.
 

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Thanks everyone! I've kept my frame and realized I was overthinking everything with this one. I believe I was getting oneititis with her and refocused my attention.
Men need to train off the default provide and protect. Women lost this.

If bombs drop or terrorism, she's "equal." **** her. If it's your girl, wife, mother of your child, power to you. This default is dead. She gets the following as a by product of compliance, femininity, and calling All In, allocating her peak smv. Top form smv 18-23. Not pushing 30. Not bulking season or danger zone.
 
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