I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I thought the DJ is the guy that lives life, not the guy who always acts alpha. It always seems that the geeky guy who likes computers and anime is the guy that is "weak." Granted, many does hold true, many lacks social skills, but having an interest in geeky and nerdy stuff and being with those type of people (including girls) does not mean he have to abandon that. If such a person have that problem he need to get read of the lack of social skills, not his interests, too many fail to realize that.ChrizZ said:I overreacted a little bit.
You are right.
However I DO NOT have sympathy for weak men like him that sit at home all day and play videogames. If he asks for help I'll help him. I hoped for another alpha male to learn from, but I got a beta male.
I'll try to take advantage of this though. As I said his computer skills might be useful for starting my own business.
No offence but you're not a Kevin Levrone yourself and he still gets laid.ChrizZ said:"Hi, I'm Christopher and I'm totally weird and a super geek" is what he said when he first entered the dorm to greet me.
I was looking at a tall, anorexic guy dressed as a total geek carrying a supercomputer in his one arm and an xbox and playstation in the other.. Next to him stood his girlfriend who was the female version of him.
He doesn't do any sports because he has a health problem.
He says he doesn't do anything except play video games all day. I'm talking about a geek like this
Now don't get me wrong here, I don't wanna sound arrogant, but we are completely different.
I'm on a good path to become a real man, but I'm afraid he'll drag me down with his nerdyness. What should I do? Try to help him out or just move out?
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.