Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I thought the DJ is the guy that lives life, not the guy who always acts alpha. It always seems that the geeky guy who likes computers and anime is the guy that is "weak." Granted, many does hold true, many lacks social skills, but having an interest in geeky and nerdy stuff and being with those type of people (including girls) does not mean he have to abandon that. If such a person have that problem he need to get read of the lack of social skills, not his interests, too many fail to realize that.ChrizZ said:I overreacted a little bit.
You are right.
However I DO NOT have sympathy for weak men like him that sit at home all day and play videogames. If he asks for help I'll help him. I hoped for another alpha male to learn from, but I got a beta male.
I'll try to take advantage of this though. As I said his computer skills might be useful for starting my own business.
No offence but you're not a Kevin Levrone yourself and he still gets laid.ChrizZ said:"Hi, I'm Christopher and I'm totally weird and a super geek" is what he said when he first entered the dorm to greet me.
I was looking at a tall, anorexic guy dressed as a total geek carrying a supercomputer in his one arm and an xbox and playstation in the other.. Next to him stood his girlfriend who was the female version of him.
He doesn't do any sports because he has a health problem.
He says he doesn't do anything except play video games all day. I'm talking about a geek like this
Now don't get me wrong here, I don't wanna sound arrogant, but we are completely different.
I'm on a good path to become a real man, but I'm afraid he'll drag me down with his nerdyness. What should I do? Try to help him out or just move out?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.