You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I thought the DJ is the guy that lives life, not the guy who always acts alpha. It always seems that the geeky guy who likes computers and anime is the guy that is "weak." Granted, many does hold true, many lacks social skills, but having an interest in geeky and nerdy stuff and being with those type of people (including girls) does not mean he have to abandon that. If such a person have that problem he need to get read of the lack of social skills, not his interests, too many fail to realize that.ChrizZ said:I overreacted a little bit.
You are right.
However I DO NOT have sympathy for weak men like him that sit at home all day and play videogames. If he asks for help I'll help him. I hoped for another alpha male to learn from, but I got a beta male.
I'll try to take advantage of this though. As I said his computer skills might be useful for starting my own business.
No offence but you're not a Kevin Levrone yourself and he still gets laid.ChrizZ said:"Hi, I'm Christopher and I'm totally weird and a super geek" is what he said when he first entered the dorm to greet me.
I was looking at a tall, anorexic guy dressed as a total geek carrying a supercomputer in his one arm and an xbox and playstation in the other.. Next to him stood his girlfriend who was the female version of him.
He doesn't do any sports because he has a health problem.
He says he doesn't do anything except play video games all day. I'm talking about a geek like this
Now don't get me wrong here, I don't wanna sound arrogant, but we are completely different.
I'm on a good path to become a real man, but I'm afraid he'll drag me down with his nerdyness. What should I do? Try to help him out or just move out?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.