New Plate Looking for Relationship

[dr.harker]

Currently have one plate. She’s ok, but only a Mon/Tues/Wed kinda gal. I still want my weekends open for me and other dates.

Last night was our 4th hook up. She says she wants to hang on weekends, spend more time together. I explained on our first date that I have a 1 year minimum of hanging with a gal before even considering moving a relationship up to something more committed.

I’m not looking to “next” her, she’s extremely submissive, takes all my leads, etc. But I want to avoid her becoming too obsessed or needy or taking away my weekends.

Any suggestions on how to tell her in “girl-language” that she’s an early week girl to me and not much else? I literally only wannna bang her once a week to keep a guaranteed weekly lay on the day-planner.

My instinct says, joke with her next time she asks for more. Don’t directly say no. But clarify that if she wants to keep hanging, then to accept my invites. But if she needs more than I can give or want, then she should stop accepting my invites.

Thoughts?

 

[EyeBRollin]

You stall her the first time she asks, then wait for her to bring it up again. But if you really don’t want to be with her just know that plates have an expiration date.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Lmao...1 year? Sounds like you are kind of inexperienced. Who the hell tells someone its going be a year before they can hang out more?

 

[dr.harker]

Lmao...1 year? Sounds like you are kind of inexperienced. Who the hell tells someone its going be a year before they can hang out more?

I make wine for a living. There are 3 months a year where I basically don’t exist. It’s a logistics thing. I give ladies a big advance notice that harvest takes all my time. Been making wine 7 years. Never had a chick last past harvest. Wine country girls understand this, generally/

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Currently have one plate. She’s ok, but only a Mon/Tues/Wed kinda gal. I still want my weekends open for me and other dates.

Last night was our 4th hook up. She says she wants to hang on weekends, spend more time together. I explained on our first date that I have a 1 year minimum of hanging with a gal before even considering moving a relationship up to something more committed.

I’m not looking to “next” her, she’s extremely submissive, takes all my leads, etc. But I want to avoid her becoming too obsessed or needy or taking away my weekends.

Any suggestions on how to tell her in “girl-language” that she’s an early week girl to me and not much else? I literally only wannna bang her once a week to keep a guaranteed weekly lay on the day-planner.

My instinct says, joke with her next time she asks for more. Don’t directly say no. But clarify that if she wants to keep hanging, then to accept my invites. But if she needs more than I can give or want, then she should stop accepting my invites.

Thoughts?

I am not in that place in my life. When I get there, I will let you know.

 

[Ohso-Phresh]

Currently have one plate. She’s ok, but only a Mon/Tues/Wed kinda gal. I still want my weekends open for me and other dates.

Last night was our 4th hook up. She says she wants to hang on weekends, spend more time together. I explained on our first date that I have a 1 year minimum of hanging with a gal before even considering moving a relationship up to something more committed.

I’m not looking to “next” her, she’s extremely submissive, takes all my leads, etc. But I want to avoid her becoming too obsessed or needy or taking away my weekends.

Any suggestions on how to tell her in “girl-language” that she’s an early week girl to me and not much else? I literally only wannna bang her once a week to keep a guaranteed weekly lay on the day-planner.

My instinct says, joke with her next time she asks for more. Don’t directly say no. But clarify that if she wants to keep hanging, then to accept my invites. But if she needs more than I can give or want, then she should stop accepting my invites.

Thoughts?

Drop to 1-2 days/wk. more times than not, the threshold from 2 to 3 does something to a girls head.

Also be prepared that she’ll find more of what she is looking for.

 

[bcude]

The best thing right now is not to tell her anything, that's what you've been doing already. Let her know by your actions and busy lifestyle that you've no time for her over the weekends, that's how it's supposed to be anyway. Hypothetically, between friends, fishing, shooting pool, spending time with your dog, family and maintaining other plates you've very limited time to where you can fit her in, which is mostly weekdays.
But girls want and expect progression, if it's a relationship she wants and you wont give her any weekend ever, then the expiration date is fast approaching.

 

[MrWood]

imho "quality" women dont want to be "one of your girls"

you need to decide if yourself if you are willing to risk loosing her not only as a plate but also any future possibilities with her.

 

[BeExcellent]

imho "quality" women dont want to be "one of your girls"

you need to decide if yourself if you are willing to risk loosing her not only as a plate but also any future possibilities with her.

Correct. She will be gone sooner rather than later if you aren’t going to invest time in her if she is girl worth dating.

As a woman I personally wouldn’t put up with a man who does this (tries to slot me to early week only)...but Ive never had a man do that to me or try. I’m a prime time girl. Men know that.

So if you aren’t willing to give her some prime time...she is going to feel used in short order...and she’s going to bail. It is what it is.