Whats up guys..just want to say hello and the fact Im glad i came acoss this place. Im 18, pretty much an AFC my entire life and quite frankly Im ****ing sick of it and Im about to turn the AFC boat the **** around (im motovated lol). Sick and tired of not having the balls to talk to random girls etc. My question is...how in the hell do i open to a girl? FYI Im not out of shape, Ive been lifting for the past 2 years so all I really need to focus on is my social aspect. It just seems that I get frozen in conversation or when even thinking about talking to a good looking girl..any opener help/drills would be greatly appreciated.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
MikeAndIke
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Start with the DJ Bible. That should get the ball rolling.
Mike32ct
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I think the DJ Bible, while very good, is info overload for newbies.
Try Brad's Secret Guide in the Don Juan Tips forum. It's more concise.
Try Brad's Secret Guide in the Don Juan Tips forum. It's more concise.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Since you have the body/fitness handled, the next step is getting the coolest hairstyle. Then on to clothing.
For opening, you first need to think about where you are going to meet girls. What you use in a club might be very different than what you use in class at school.
For opening, you first need to think about where you are going to meet girls. What you use in a club might be very different than what you use in class at school.
Appreciate the help guys..reading brads guide now and it seems pretty good, nice and concise. As for now Ive been trying to just carry conversations on with other people lately whether it be in restaurants or the mall or hell even the cashier at starbucks, seems to be helping a little so far