Whats up guys..just want to say hello and the fact Im glad i came acoss this place. Im 18, pretty much an AFC my entire life and quite frankly Im ****ing sick of it and Im about to turn the AFC boat the **** around (im motovated lol). Sick and tired of not having the balls to talk to random girls etc. My question is...how in the hell do i open to a girl? FYI Im not out of shape, Ive been lifting for the past 2 years so all I really need to focus on is my social aspect. It just seems that I get frozen in conversation or when even thinking about talking to a good looking girl..any opener help/drills would be greatly appreciated.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
New Here...motivated
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
MikeAndIke
Don Juan
Start with the DJ Bible. That should get the ball rolling.
Mike32ct
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I think the DJ Bible, while very good, is info overload for newbies.
Try Brad's Secret Guide in the Don Juan Tips forum. It's more concise.
Try Brad's Secret Guide in the Don Juan Tips forum. It's more concise.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Since you have the body/fitness handled, the next step is getting the coolest hairstyle. Then on to clothing.
For opening, you first need to think about where you are going to meet girls. What you use in a club might be very different than what you use in class at school.
For opening, you first need to think about where you are going to meet girls. What you use in a club might be very different than what you use in class at school.
Appreciate the help guys..reading brads guide now and it seems pretty good, nice and concise. As for now Ive been trying to just carry conversations on with other people lately whether it be in restaurants or the mall or hell even the cashier at starbucks, seems to be helping a little so far