"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi I'm new here. This is my first post.

What do you people wear when it comes to jeans?

I used to wear Levis 511...But that was when I was REALLY skinny. I've gained a lot of weight. I'm wondering if the 513s would be better for me.

I have FAT thighs and a HUGE butt. It's disgusting how I'm proportioned. It's like my body is a woman's body. Anyone have experience with this?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hello,

I have been out and paid a wingman $500 to show me the ropes.

All he did was talk to a bunch of girls the whole nite, didn't get any numbers, had me buy him drinks,

and then he said "I hope you learned some valuable lessons" wtf.

I am an Asian guy, and I can't find any competent wingman that can actually do anything.
 
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Hello,

What is some advice for Asian American guys to get dates?

I have never been on one before.

I paid $500 for a wingman, but he could not get any numbers.

I have never met a competent wingman before.
 

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Go to the gym and build your upper body. Skip the leg workouts. Cut animal fat from your diet. Cardio. And improve your posture.

As far as your clothes, I'm not even gonna go there. Half the time I'm wearing the $9 white sneakers I mow my lawn in. Useless thing to worry about.
 

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nestlepurelife said:
Hello,

What is some advice for Asian American guys to get dates?

I have never been on one before.

I paid $500 for a wingman, but he could not get any numbers.

I have never met a competent wingman before.
At first, I thought you were trolling the topic creator. I suspected him of trolling also. Pessimism? Cynicism? But sadly, I believe you now.

A wingman is not to get numbers, is he also gonna call the girl and set up the date? The wingman's only job is to give you an excuse to intrude on groups and become the center of attention long enough to convince one of the girls to go somewhere else with you, where you can talk privately. It does absolutely nothing to get you dates.

Being Asian doesn't affect things that much. Yes, some girls might not be attracted to Asian men per say, but many are. If there are cultural differences, that is a bigger divide. For instance, if you speak too quietly, that could get you ignored. Speak with authority.

I hope I'm not getting trolled.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Vekhematu said:
Go to the gym and build your upper body. Skip the leg workouts. Cut animal fat from your diet. Cardio. And improve your posture.

As far as your clothes, I'm not even gonna go there. Half the time I'm wearing the $9 white sneakers I mow my lawn in. Useless thing to worry about.
Don't skip leg workouts lol
 

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Syrio said:
Don't skip leg workouts lol
Trust me, sounds like he has plenty of leg muscle. Working out a certain body part just tears more muscle fibers so they grow back bigger. Cardio to burn off calories. Benchpress and pullups to compensate for great lower body genetics.
 
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Vekhematu said:
At first, I thought you were trolling the topic creator. I suspected him of trolling also. Pessimism? Cynicism? But sadly, I believe you now.

A wingman is not to get numbers, is he also gonna call the girl and set up the date? The wingman's only job is to give you an excuse to intrude on groups and become the center of attention long enough to convince one of the girls to go somewhere else with you, where you can talk privately. It does absolutely nothing to get you dates.

Being Asian doesn't affect things that much. Yes, some girls might not be attracted to Asian men per say, but many are. If there are cultural differences, that is a bigger divide. For instance, if you speak too quietly, that could get you ignored. Speak with authority.

I hope I'm not getting trolled.

I have asked many women whether they would consider dating an Asian guy, and the response has always been no.
 
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