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We agreed that i should have our kid when she works weekends on her childweek. Not anytime i have had the child this year. I confronted her about it and the replied that she takes holiday when she was suposed to work. Mmm she lied.

I Think (without having any evidence) that her new man of a couple of months is babysitting my child. My ex works nights(12 hour shifts)
Could she be so crazy that a stranger is babysitting her own child!!??
What can i do??? I guess NOTHING....her week with our child is her week....
Advice please.
 

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Your hunch means nothing in court. You will need some evidence. Speak to your attorney to file a motion to get you some visitation and to memorialize your agreement you have with her already. Also, most jurisdictions have a "right of first refusal" rule for the parents to get the child if the other can't be with them on their time. If you have an order from the court for visitation already then have your attorney file to put her in contempt of court.

These things aren't automatic. You have to be proactive with a parent on the other side that decides they're boss. The only person who can show them that isn't the case in some instances is the judge if they want to force the issue.
 

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Your hunch means nothing in court. You will need some evidence. Speak to your attorney to file a motion to get you some visitation and to memorialize your agreement you have with her already. Also, most jurisdictions have a "right of first refusal" rule for the parents to get the child if the other can't be with them on their time. If you have an order from the court for visitation already then have your attorney file to put her in contempt of court.

These things aren't automatic. You have to be proactive with a parent on the other side that decides they're boss. The only person who can show them that isn't the case in some instances is the judge if they want to force the issue.
I doubt OP is in the US based on his grammar...no idea how the laws work where you live OP, consult an attorney.
 

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Swedish guy here....
So i guess you guys Think its wrong of both her new guy and her to do this to our child?
 

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We agreed that i should have our kid when she works weekends on her childweek. Not anytime i have had the child this year. I confronted her about it and the replied that she takes holiday when she was suposed to work. Mmm she lied.

I Think (without having any evidence) that her new man of a couple of months is babysitting my child. My ex works nights(12 hour shifts)
Could she be so crazy that a stranger is babysitting her own child!!??
What can i do??? I guess NOTHING....her week with our child is her week....
Advice please.
Man i hope your child isnt a girl. Imagine a dude spending the night with your child daughter. Its scary.
Even if its a boy, these days abuse can happen to them too. Always trust your instincts bro
 

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Swedish guy here....
So i guess you guys Think its wrong of both her new guy and her to do this to our child?
It doesn't matter what we think. It's a matter of what the laws in your area will allow and not allow.
 

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Swedish guy here....
So i guess you guys Think its wrong of both her new guy and her to do this to our child?
What exactly do your legal child visitation/custody rights allow? Most only apply to the times that the child is in your physical custody.

If you have no ruled legal visitation rights, you have no say. If you do have ruled legal rights, you have no say about the mother or child when she’s in ‘Her custody’ unless you’re denied visitation, or the mother is proven in court to be legally unfit…
 

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You have to come to grips with the fact that you only control what happens with your child when you have him or her.
 

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Here it is "My week is my week" and the same about her week. She and i can,if we want,have who ever we want babysitting our child. As long as the child is safe and is not misstreated är course. Its all up to my ex on her weeks.
I just hate IF she lets a stranger babysit my son....soon our son is starting to talk and i Will get info about her week. Of Course i wont ask hon about it but Children speak about everything. Im gone take actions if i hear something wrong from my child.
 
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