"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Stop texting her, instead grab your balls, call her and ask her out. Simple. NO more chumpish acts like letting your buddy setting you up etc. Be a man.
You don't even know this girl and what kind of respons did you expect to a msg like "Yeah I'm good. Any news?"..?
That was just painful. Nothing in there that would remotely kick up her interest in you. Seems like you messed up from the very beginning and in my honest opinion, even though just based on that short info, your chances of getting romantic with this chick is very remote.
You should read the bible and learn the basics atleast. Stop making exuses for yourself like she's out of credit or that she fell asleep. She didn't reply 'cause you gave her no reason to. You just bored her. Sorry if I seem harsh here, but it's the way I see it..
Good luck.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I disagree that texting is dumb. In europe it is actually the no.1 way to flirt. I've heard that it's not that common in the states due to different systems etc..dunno if it's true though.
I do however agree that texting is dumb if you are JUST getting to know the girl. But after some rapport has been established it is a great way to flirt. And you'll soon find out if she flirts back. If she doesn't reply or takes too long, then just stop it. She isn't interested. But if she does, then it's gold. You can plan what to write and get her to think of you right before she goes to bed etc. When you have her dreaming about you 'cause you are the last thing on her mind before she falls asleep, her dreams are working in your favour. She's unconsciously (?) sarging herself dreaming of you
Do you call a girl just to chit chat or only when you plan to arrange a meeting? I think it's pointless to call girls just to chat. That's what her girlfriends are for. I never do it. I ONLY call if it is to set up a date, and then i keep it short and sweet. I think you can screw up alot over the phone...
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
When I lived in Norway, I had a couple of chicks that were kinda nuts after me. They kept texting me 15+ times everyday, it got annoying in the long run, but still.
It's not bull****. It's a proven fact. It's kind of the same thing like if you call her before she goes to sleep, there is a high probability that she will subconsciously incorporate you in her dreams. Ofcourse a textmsg will have less effect, but if she has some interest it will make her think of you and chances are you'll be in her dreams.
It's not her conscious choice. That's why it's recommended to call a girl between 21:30 and 23:00 or something like that.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
Hey the pun is still in though, only like 20 years old, it's so in... it's hip(pop!)
It is true, I saw the research somehwere... **** searching for it that could take days... It has something to do with the amygdala being the center for your emotions, and the only region of the brain that remains active during rest...
That's why I always condone getting a girl to go gaga for you by playing with as many emotions as possible... hehehe I've GOT to post how to make a girl drunk without alcohol, it is amazing what girls will do and cannot control if you arouse their emotions over a point, jealousy is scary don't play with it though, anger is funny, funny makes her piss herself and she won't talk to you, and tons more that are just too interesting to deny...
In the texting case, stop, you are untrained and one slip will **** it up for you, learn and than go back over your steps so you can realize you've got to change. Take it in baby steps as far as you can remember in knowledge you can apply and learn, beyond what you cannot remember is logic, and logic is determined by the initial input which is society, society teaches you AFC, so learn what you remember to learn, you believe what is remember as being logical.
As far as the girl not responding... think about what you said
Creepy stalker guy, like you could be anybody, you could know her friend was steve... she played along, since you weren't right there. If her friends were around her what would they think about your txt message?
That sounds decieving, and boring... you say how are you, she answers you as aiight.... than you ask again whats the news, is she going to say anything other than nothin much? This girl is bored by you dude...
If some girl I didn;t know worth a damn messaged me with this **** I would blow her off...