"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
Stop texting her, instead grab your balls, call her and ask her out. Simple. NO more chumpish acts like letting your buddy setting you up etc. Be a man.
You don't even know this girl and what kind of respons did you expect to a msg like "Yeah I'm good. Any news?"..?
That was just painful. Nothing in there that would remotely kick up her interest in you. Seems like you messed up from the very beginning and in my honest opinion, even though just based on that short info, your chances of getting romantic with this chick is very remote.
You should read the bible and learn the basics atleast. Stop making exuses for yourself like she's out of credit or that she fell asleep. She didn't reply 'cause you gave her no reason to. You just bored her. Sorry if I seem harsh here, but it's the way I see it..
Good luck.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I disagree that texting is dumb. In europe it is actually the no.1 way to flirt. I've heard that it's not that common in the states due to different systems etc..dunno if it's true though.
I do however agree that texting is dumb if you are JUST getting to know the girl. But after some rapport has been established it is a great way to flirt. And you'll soon find out if she flirts back. If she doesn't reply or takes too long, then just stop it. She isn't interested. But if she does, then it's gold. You can plan what to write and get her to think of you right before she goes to bed etc. When you have her dreaming about you 'cause you are the last thing on her mind before she falls asleep, her dreams are working in your favour. She's unconsciously (?) sarging herself dreaming of you
Do you call a girl just to chit chat or only when you plan to arrange a meeting? I think it's pointless to call girls just to chat. That's what her girlfriends are for. I never do it. I ONLY call if it is to set up a date, and then i keep it short and sweet. I think you can screw up alot over the phone...
Centaurion
Master Don Juan
When I lived in Norway, I had a couple of chicks that were kinda nuts after me. They kept texting me 15+ times everyday, it got annoying in the long run, but still.
It's not bull****. It's a proven fact. It's kind of the same thing like if you call her before she goes to sleep, there is a high probability that she will subconsciously incorporate you in her dreams. Ofcourse a textmsg will have less effect, but if she has some interest it will make her think of you and chances are you'll be in her dreams.
It's not her conscious choice. That's why it's recommended to call a girl between 21:30 and 23:00 or something like that.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
Hey the pun is still in though, only like 20 years old, it's so in... it's hip(pop!)
It is true, I saw the research somehwere... **** searching for it that could take days... It has something to do with the amygdala being the center for your emotions, and the only region of the brain that remains active during rest...
That's why I always condone getting a girl to go gaga for you by playing with as many emotions as possible... hehehe I've GOT to post how to make a girl drunk without alcohol, it is amazing what girls will do and cannot control if you arouse their emotions over a point, jealousy is scary don't play with it though, anger is funny, funny makes her piss herself and she won't talk to you, and tons more that are just too interesting to deny...
In the texting case, stop, you are untrained and one slip will **** it up for you, learn and than go back over your steps so you can realize you've got to change. Take it in baby steps as far as you can remember in knowledge you can apply and learn, beyond what you cannot remember is logic, and logic is determined by the initial input which is society, society teaches you AFC, so learn what you remember to learn, you believe what is remember as being logical.
As far as the girl not responding... think about what you said
Creepy stalker guy, like you could be anybody, you could know her friend was steve... she played along, since you weren't right there. If her friends were around her what would they think about your txt message?
That sounds decieving, and boring... you say how are you, she answers you as aiight.... than you ask again whats the news, is she going to say anything other than nothin much? This girl is bored by you dude...
If some girl I didn;t know worth a damn messaged me with this **** I would blow her off...