"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sadonomspa

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Ok,
As some of you might know. I went through a nasty divorce with a woman I suspect was bpd/bipolar/narcassistic.

Since the seperation I have been spinning alot of plates but not doing anything with any of them. Just going to 3rd base with one.

Heres the problem. All of them are nuts or have the same traits as my ex wife. Even without knowing them I some how manage to find these types of girls.

The one I like the most I come to find is just like my ex wife. Only much hotter. I found out this week she exhibits most of the traits and one dominant trait where she takes pictures of herself and stares at them for long amounts of times, also that she cant stay in one place for to long and is sort of like a gypsy.

Always fighting with her brother who she lives with or her parents who she will live with for another part of the year.

Its like I am trying to find emotionally unavailbile girls.

For starters, I never im her or text her first. She always contacts me first. I never tell her hot pretty she is. I comment more on her smarts then her beauty.

Anybody have this problem and can give pointers?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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YoungSir4sho

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Maybe u should go to different places to pick up women. There's alot of women out there. Right now u r in a slump but sooner or later u will get out of it. If u don't like certain qualities from the girl then move on to the next one.
 

jophil28

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sadonomspa said:
Ok,
As some of you might know. I went through a nasty divorce with a woman I suspect was bpd/bipolar/narcassistic.
IF you are attracting the same types as your wife. then YOU are the problem.

Why bother to get a divorce- stay with the devil you know.
 
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