No one is following you around.
Stop dreaming up stuff that doesn't exist.
No wonder everyone around you somehow ends up being crazy in ur eyes.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
New gf I feel like I can’t do enough
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Stop dreaming up stuff that doesn't exist.
No wonder everyone around you somehow ends up being crazy in ur eyes.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
It's flattering that you keep tabs on my patterns.
I'm sure there's more guy's who's going to say the same each time I post something that hurts their sensitivity.
A lot of different answers in here. Guys I didnt anything wrong I literally just ****ed this chick and started hanging out with her. She cooked and gave me great sex and even bought me things. She always was cool and did whatever I wanted to do. Things were great I had a submissive badass chick....I didnt even feel like something was off until week 4-5, she started calling me selfish and overreacting to everything. I gave up my other plates for her blocked them all, that’s how sure I was about her.
Because she literally does whatever I tell her in bed and does so many nice things for me I am going out of her way to communicate better but she still ends up getting pissed somehow. Last night when I was at the club and she was blowing up my phone I got pissed and she said
“Your a selfish ******* no girl will ever marry you. Your a disgusting person”
I should also mention she has very bad anxiety. If that has anything to do with it. Every other thing I do is “selfish”
Because she literally does whatever I tell her in bed and does so many nice things for me I am going out of her way to communicate better but she still ends up getting pissed somehow. Last night when I was at the club and she was blowing up my phone I got pissed and she said
“Your a selfish ******* no girl will ever marry you. Your a disgusting person”
I should also mention she has very bad anxiety. If that has anything to do with it. Every other thing I do is “selfish”
lamath
Master Don Juan
Does she admit that those things she does are not acceptable?
Because if she cant this is a clear Next.
Now that she is attach to you and completly in love with you she cant control herself from acting crazy.
Imo this is not gonna change NEXT !
Eh not really. But she has seen where she was wrong before. I remember sitting on the couch a few weeks ago and her going off on a rant calling me selfish and saying I don’t really want to date her. Literally hit me like a freight train this chick literally did whatever I wanted.
She will call me selfish for minuscule things, even when I “try” to go out of my way a little bit lately to accommodate her.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When I read this post of you, all of my alarm bells are ringing. Regardless what others here have said.
But it also sounds like you give in on her demands and tolerate her bs afterwards, although your concessions towards her...
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I mean I’m a realist. I’m not the easiest guy to deal with and I’ve been selfish in single mode for a while and she really made me feel like a selfish *******. I stopped and looked in the mirror to see if I did anything messed up and felt like I didn’t. I get grumpy with work sometimes but that’s rare I treat her pretty well. The fights are always over me not doing enough or giving her enough attention/calls/texts etc. she wants to see me constantly and I want to hang out with friends once a week on my own and I get called selfish
I mean you tell me...is it selfish expecting a hot chick to sit around treat you like a king while you still have a life, see her 1-2 times a week, take her out to eat on weekends,etc.?
lamath
Master Don Juan
She is trying to gaslight you into thinking you are not treating her well.
Like Rollo said be your own mental point of origine, if you think your are not doing anything wrong you probably are right.
Trust yourself over her and what she is saying.
Ill repeat this is a easy Next.
You are probably not selfish, you are guilt tripped
Yes. She is constantly doing overly nice things for me almost over the top. Buying me **** I never ask for, bringing me things constantly,cooking for me. It’s great but...I would be happier with a girl that let me relax a little and did less for me. She points out all the stuff she does for me and how I don’t do the same for her. Which is true to a degree, but I’ve only known her two months I want to ease into the relationship. I felt like I was married within two months. I tried explaining this to her and she just got hurt from it
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Who here actually thinks psychoanalysis is western medicine?
The worst medical statistics on the planet.
metalwater
Master Don Juan
Her comment is not ok, you do not want to hear that every day or even every week.
As soon as you blocked the competition, her attitude changed.
Some men can't surpass their limits and insists on remaining bottom feeders.
The excuses you give gets more desperate as the days and years go by.
In the end, you're still talking about BPD with some sort of weird pride.
Maybe you feels it's an achievement.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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You are writing a thread about this for real? Dump her and get another gf.