"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Its a cute story but its not 1985 anymore and doesnt apply in reality. It isnt manipulation its just purpose, self-improvement and keeping people around in my life. She cant complain because she did exactly the same in her best years as all girls do these days. This is the hand we MEN have been dealt. All these movements are here for a reason. There are dozens of them, why?

You talk about respect - girls today celebrate late term abortion, multiple sexual partners, rampant man hating, social media attention seeking, nudes, affairs, divorce. This is all the normal now. What is their left to respect?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Its a cute story but its not 1985 anymore and doesnt apply in reality. It isnt manipulation its just purpose, self-improvement and keeping people around in my life. She cant complain because she did exactly the same in her best years as all girls do these days. This is the hand we MEN have been dealt. All these movements are here for a reason. There are dozens of them, why?

You talk about respect - girls today celebrate late term abortion, multiple sexual partners, rampant man hating, social media attention seeking, nudes, affairs, divorce. This is all the normal now. What is their left to respect?
did I say any of that is respectful? Don’t paint one colour with one broad brush.
 

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I like to take a step back... and I think what we're seeing here between @AJ84 and @Medina is that people are drawn to others on their own wavelength. I personally find myself on AJ's wavelength, but at the same time it seems that Medina and his woman have similar values and behaviors (wavelength) and they're both aware of it, and that's why I don't condemn him or his woman for how they act toward each other. They have a relationship on their mutual wavelength just like AJ and her man do.
 

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I like to take a step back... and I think what we're seeing here between @AJ84 and @Medina is that people are drawn to others on their own wavelength. I personally find myself on AJ's wavelength, but at the same time it seems that Medina and his woman have similar values and behaviors (wavelength) and they're both aware of it, and that's why I don't condemn him or his woman for how they act toward each other. They have a relationship on their mutual wavelength just like AJ and her man do.
Exactly
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You talk about respect - girls today celebrate late term abortion, multiple sexual partners, rampant man hating, social media attention seeking, nudes, affairs, divorce. This is all the normal now. What is their left to respect?
It's the societal values.

Many of it is being celebrated and subcommunicated to young girls, that in the end, they get rewarded.
 
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