i read a "how to get with women" book once that said "never be her therapist" because basically you'll get stuck in friend zone, but what if I (a guy) turns her into my therapist, and get her emotionally/generally invested in me?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
never be her therapist? what if she becomes like my therapist then what?
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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Generally speaking, that's also bad. It becomes less about her becoming invested in you and more about her not seeing you as a potential lover because you've shown too much vulnerability too soon.
I talk about this in my newly released book. It's good to show vulnerability in some ways in managed doses. Pickup artists have even done this strategically. I do it all the time. However, if you're not so experienced, it's easy to slip up and come off as not masculine, as someone who isn't dependable.
In other words, it's easy to get stuck in that "friend zone" if you go that route as well.
Also, bit of a different topic but, if you need therapy, go see a real therapist.
I talk about this in my newly released book. It's good to show vulnerability in some ways in managed doses. Pickup artists have even done this strategically. I do it all the time. However, if you're not so experienced, it's easy to slip up and come off as not masculine, as someone who isn't dependable.
In other words, it's easy to get stuck in that "friend zone" if you go that route as well.
Also, bit of a different topic but, if you need therapy, go see a real therapist.
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Don’t do it.
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No matter which one of you is the other's therapist, the principle here has always been (and always will be) that you do not act like an emotion ATM for a chick that you are not fvcking, for whatever the hell reasons.
After you've fvcked her good at least dozens of times, at that point she would likely enjoy telling you stuff, and you can choose to listen to or not.
After you've fvcked her good at least dozens of times, at that point she would likely enjoy telling you stuff, and you can choose to listen to or not.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You’ll put yourself in the position of her gay male girlfriend. You become a “girlfriend” to her and not a guy she wants to bang. When you try to make a move, she‘ll be shocked. “I thought we were (girl)friends?” If you do, make sure it’s in very small doses and not a daily thing.
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I once became her therapist. In my case it had nothing to do with being her emotional tampon. It was about helping her improve. That's what she wanted, and she knew I could help her. With some knowledge and understanding I had, along with her effort, she took herself from a level 5 to a level 7. She learned some skills that improved her life significantly. She was the student, I was the teacher.
The problem was I started to feel more like her father than her lover. I lost all sexual attraction.
OP, not a good idea. Its not how you generate attraction. It certainly has a manipulative tone to it as well. How about work on your problems? become a better person so others will like you organically.
The problem was I started to feel more like her father than her lover. I lost all sexual attraction.
OP, not a good idea. Its not how you generate attraction. It certainly has a manipulative tone to it as well. How about work on your problems? become a better person so others will like you organically.