i read a "how to get with women" book once that said "never be her therapist" because basically you'll get stuck in friend zone, but what if I (a guy) turns her into my therapist, and get her emotionally/generally invested in me?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
never be her therapist? what if she becomes like my therapist then what?
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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Generally speaking, that's also bad. It becomes less about her becoming invested in you and more about her not seeing you as a potential lover because you've shown too much vulnerability too soon.
I talk about this in my newly released book. It's good to show vulnerability in some ways in managed doses. Pickup artists have even done this strategically. I do it all the time. However, if you're not so experienced, it's easy to slip up and come off as not masculine, as someone who isn't dependable.
In other words, it's easy to get stuck in that "friend zone" if you go that route as well.
Also, bit of a different topic but, if you need therapy, go see a real therapist.
I talk about this in my newly released book. It's good to show vulnerability in some ways in managed doses. Pickup artists have even done this strategically. I do it all the time. However, if you're not so experienced, it's easy to slip up and come off as not masculine, as someone who isn't dependable.
In other words, it's easy to get stuck in that "friend zone" if you go that route as well.
Also, bit of a different topic but, if you need therapy, go see a real therapist.
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Don’t do it.
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No matter which one of you is the other's therapist, the principle here has always been (and always will be) that you do not act like an emotion ATM for a chick that you are not fvcking, for whatever the hell reasons.
After you've fvcked her good at least dozens of times, at that point she would likely enjoy telling you stuff, and you can choose to listen to or not.
After you've fvcked her good at least dozens of times, at that point she would likely enjoy telling you stuff, and you can choose to listen to or not.
You’ll put yourself in the position of her gay male girlfriend. You become a “girlfriend” to her and not a guy she wants to bang. When you try to make a move, she‘ll be shocked. “I thought we were (girl)friends?” If you do, make sure it’s in very small doses and not a daily thing.
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I once became her therapist. In my case it had nothing to do with being her emotional tampon. It was about helping her improve. That's what she wanted, and she knew I could help her. With some knowledge and understanding I had, along with her effort, she took herself from a level 5 to a level 7. She learned some skills that improved her life significantly. She was the student, I was the teacher.
The problem was I started to feel more like her father than her lover. I lost all sexual attraction.
OP, not a good idea. Its not how you generate attraction. It certainly has a manipulative tone to it as well. How about work on your problems? become a better person so others will like you organically.
The problem was I started to feel more like her father than her lover. I lost all sexual attraction.
OP, not a good idea. Its not how you generate attraction. It certainly has a manipulative tone to it as well. How about work on your problems? become a better person so others will like you organically.