i read a "how to get with women" book once that said "never be her therapist" because basically you'll get stuck in friend zone, but what if I (a guy) turns her into my therapist, and get her emotionally/generally invested in me?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
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never be her therapist? what if she becomes like my therapist then what?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
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Generally speaking, that's also bad. It becomes less about her becoming invested in you and more about her not seeing you as a potential lover because you've shown too much vulnerability too soon.
I talk about this in my newly released book. It's good to show vulnerability in some ways in managed doses. Pickup artists have even done this strategically. I do it all the time. However, if you're not so experienced, it's easy to slip up and come off as not masculine, as someone who isn't dependable.
In other words, it's easy to get stuck in that "friend zone" if you go that route as well.
Also, bit of a different topic but, if you need therapy, go see a real therapist.
I talk about this in my newly released book. It's good to show vulnerability in some ways in managed doses. Pickup artists have even done this strategically. I do it all the time. However, if you're not so experienced, it's easy to slip up and come off as not masculine, as someone who isn't dependable.
In other words, it's easy to get stuck in that "friend zone" if you go that route as well.
Also, bit of a different topic but, if you need therapy, go see a real therapist.
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Don’t do it.
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No matter which one of you is the other's therapist, the principle here has always been (and always will be) that you do not act like an emotion ATM for a chick that you are not fvcking, for whatever the hell reasons.
After you've fvcked her good at least dozens of times, at that point she would likely enjoy telling you stuff, and you can choose to listen to or not.
After you've fvcked her good at least dozens of times, at that point she would likely enjoy telling you stuff, and you can choose to listen to or not.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You’ll put yourself in the position of her gay male girlfriend. You become a “girlfriend” to her and not a guy she wants to bang. When you try to make a move, she‘ll be shocked. “I thought we were (girl)friends?” If you do, make sure it’s in very small doses and not a daily thing.
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I once became her therapist. In my case it had nothing to do with being her emotional tampon. It was about helping her improve. That's what she wanted, and she knew I could help her. With some knowledge and understanding I had, along with her effort, she took herself from a level 5 to a level 7. She learned some skills that improved her life significantly. She was the student, I was the teacher.
The problem was I started to feel more like her father than her lover. I lost all sexual attraction.
OP, not a good idea. Its not how you generate attraction. It certainly has a manipulative tone to it as well. How about work on your problems? become a better person so others will like you organically.
The problem was I started to feel more like her father than her lover. I lost all sexual attraction.
OP, not a good idea. Its not how you generate attraction. It certainly has a manipulative tone to it as well. How about work on your problems? become a better person so others will like you organically.