"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"Never answer a question"

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A few dating tips I have read suggest you should never answer a question from a woman.

I find this difficult.

Any views?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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well, last week I went on first coffee date with a girl that seemed to have a huge IL.

and she was doing the "interview thing to me". And i was foolish enough to keep answering her questions

this drove the IL down enough so that she "was busy" last weekend...

It's ok to answer a couple of questions, but try to be vague

ThePanther
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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I say use it as an outlet for c/f responses. But there is truth to it since women usually do not ask questions related to what they want to know about you. So before I answer I find out exactly what they want to know and then deflect using c/f if necessary.

Ever wonder what she really wants to know about you when she asks how many women you've slept with? I can think of at least 5 or more different things. What's the right answer, who knows? What are your chances of giving the right answer? Don't even try to figure that out without determining exactly what she wants to know and why.
 

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am a tech guy, working in biomedical field.

Long time ago, used to give answer to "where do you work" like question,

Am at the uni

Then the questions would continue, and sometime when I get bored of answering, - I really donot care, if she asks, she will be answered - I push the conv. to her side.

Now an answer like:

Am at the uni. Studying bla bla. In this level. You?

Is s**t as you give too much info at once. Let her invest.

An answer like,

Am working for a university project, *smile* on the opposite field as the army does for enemies.

Am working for a university project, trying something new.

show interest in your life and in what you do.

Love yourself, they will love you.

and the answer is the clue.

*gonna be a poet soon*
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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