"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Never answer a question"

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A few dating tips I have read suggest you should never answer a question from a woman.

I find this difficult.

Any views?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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well, last week I went on first coffee date with a girl that seemed to have a huge IL.

and she was doing the "interview thing to me". And i was foolish enough to keep answering her questions

this drove the IL down enough so that she "was busy" last weekend...

It's ok to answer a couple of questions, but try to be vague

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I say use it as an outlet for c/f responses. But there is truth to it since women usually do not ask questions related to what they want to know about you. So before I answer I find out exactly what they want to know and then deflect using c/f if necessary.

Ever wonder what she really wants to know about you when she asks how many women you've slept with? I can think of at least 5 or more different things. What's the right answer, who knows? What are your chances of giving the right answer? Don't even try to figure that out without determining exactly what she wants to know and why.
 

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am a tech guy, working in biomedical field.

Long time ago, used to give answer to "where do you work" like question,

Am at the uni

Then the questions would continue, and sometime when I get bored of answering, - I really donot care, if she asks, she will be answered - I push the conv. to her side.

Now an answer like:

Am at the uni. Studying bla bla. In this level. You?

Is s**t as you give too much info at once. Let her invest.

An answer like,

Am working for a university project, *smile* on the opposite field as the army does for enemies.

Am working for a university project, trying something new.

show interest in your life and in what you do.

Love yourself, they will love you.

and the answer is the clue.

*gonna be a poet soon*
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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