Neg hits...

[fbplayer06]

Hi all.

Today I think I may have done a few too many neg hits on this girl I sit next to in math. We're friends, but until recently (these forums kick a$$), I've been an AFC. So, I was neg hitting her a little bit and I always got these surprised looks, but she's a nice girl, so she wouldn't say something smart back. A couple of times she hit me playfully... this is good, right?

We've been friends for a long time, so she's used to my AFC side and not the new "DJ side". I'm afraid she'll think I was an a$$hole today for playfully making fun of her (neg hit) a lot, but I smiled, so I think she thinks I'm just messing around.

Should I keep up with this neg hit stuff, or back off a little?

I appreciate any advice!

 

[RaMar]

if she's reacting positively to your comments- keep it up.
if she's not - back off


simple as that.

 

[JSH]

Agreed with RaMar, although go easy on the neg hits occasionally, or at least make them obviously playful as otherwise you might really upset her, especially if this is a sudden change.

Plus i read somewhere on here something that i would agree with, do not use your new tactics on girls that you have already failed with before. It does not work and is tantamount to trying to escape the LJBF trap.

 

[fbplayer06]

Thanks for the replies.

It's not that I've failed with her already...although I really think we're in the LJBF zone. I'm workin' on it. ;-)

 

[JSH]

Well, she must have already tagged you, rather read up on getting out of the LJBF zone (which is hell hard), dont get there in the first place, than those on approaching and neg hitting. Neg hiiting is great if used carefully and in moderation, but go with what works.