"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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neg hits/push pull advice

Danny1729

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Hey there,I tried a bit of neg hitting/push pull.. with this 19 yr old hottie on myspace,we are mates but have never hung out..

she had a bikini pic up,and all the other guys were like "hot" "damns exy" etc etc..

so i said "not too bad.."

and she replied to my page saying "not too bad aye :( omg what does that mean???"

what do i say back lol? i dont wanna hurt her feelings or anything,just sorta stumped me
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Hitman10000

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Please post in the high school forum, don't come here ever again you piece of sh*t.
 

Gary29

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You're stumped over an f'ing MySpace comment? Cmon my man, if something like THIS stumps you, and we're talking MySpace here, not even a "real" date or conversation, then I think you read into things way too much.

Also, you might think that you can earn attraction and points (in a significant way) based on myspace/text/email/whatever. All that is chump change when it comes to attraction and the romance game in my opinion. Focus on more serious ways to earn attraction and "points", such as meeting her on a date or other type of social situation and showing her what you're made of there.
 

Incog

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Myspace comment? Neg hitting and push and pull? Come on man.

First of all that comment is hardly a neg hit and isn't push/pull.

Second, it's a Myspace comment. Like Gary said, attraction isn't built over Myspace. Don't overanalyze such situations.

If you want your answer; I would not reply to her question at all.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Danny1729

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thanks for the replies,all good... i just said "i was being sarcastic silly"

and ever since ive been getting all the attention in the world from her
 

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Yo Danny...

Don't sweat it with some of those dudes who gave you harsh responses. The fact that she's giving you all the attention I think speaks for itself.

Anyway.

Dude, you did so well with the "not bad."

And then you ****ed it up by backing down.

The negative dudes above are right that it isn't a "text book" neg or push and pull. But its the right attitude.

That attitude was "yeah you're okay but that doesn't overwhelm me."

My response to her question "what does that mean?" would have been something like, "It means I'd hang/date/****/ (depending on the girl) with you... if there was no one else around."

If your "I was being sarcastic" comment was the last interaction then alls not lost. If she's like "so you think I look good?"

I'd be like, "nah I meant I was being sarcastic about you being that good."

She'd be like, WTF? again.

Then you'd be like, "sorry baby, I'm just messin with ya. I'll take you out for an icecream for being so mean. Busy Saturday?"

That then would be push pull.

Good Luck Danny.

JJ
 
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