"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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neg hits/push pull advice

Danny1729

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Hey there,I tried a bit of neg hitting/push pull.. with this 19 yr old hottie on myspace,we are mates but have never hung out..

she had a bikini pic up,and all the other guys were like "hot" "damns exy" etc etc..

so i said "not too bad.."

and she replied to my page saying "not too bad aye :( omg what does that mean???"

what do i say back lol? i dont wanna hurt her feelings or anything,just sorta stumped me
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Hitman10000

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Please post in the high school forum, don't come here ever again you piece of sh*t.
 

Gary29

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You're stumped over an f'ing MySpace comment? Cmon my man, if something like THIS stumps you, and we're talking MySpace here, not even a "real" date or conversation, then I think you read into things way too much.

Also, you might think that you can earn attraction and points (in a significant way) based on myspace/text/email/whatever. All that is chump change when it comes to attraction and the romance game in my opinion. Focus on more serious ways to earn attraction and "points", such as meeting her on a date or other type of social situation and showing her what you're made of there.
 

Incog

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Myspace comment? Neg hitting and push and pull? Come on man.

First of all that comment is hardly a neg hit and isn't push/pull.

Second, it's a Myspace comment. Like Gary said, attraction isn't built over Myspace. Don't overanalyze such situations.

If you want your answer; I would not reply to her question at all.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Danny1729

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thanks for the replies,all good... i just said "i was being sarcastic silly"

and ever since ive been getting all the attention in the world from her
 

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Yo Danny...

Don't sweat it with some of those dudes who gave you harsh responses. The fact that she's giving you all the attention I think speaks for itself.

Anyway.

Dude, you did so well with the "not bad."

And then you ****ed it up by backing down.

The negative dudes above are right that it isn't a "text book" neg or push and pull. But its the right attitude.

That attitude was "yeah you're okay but that doesn't overwhelm me."

My response to her question "what does that mean?" would have been something like, "It means I'd hang/date/****/ (depending on the girl) with you... if there was no one else around."

If your "I was being sarcastic" comment was the last interaction then alls not lost. If she's like "so you think I look good?"

I'd be like, "nah I meant I was being sarcastic about you being that good."

She'd be like, WTF? again.

Then you'd be like, "sorry baby, I'm just messin with ya. I'll take you out for an icecream for being so mean. Busy Saturday?"

That then would be push pull.

Good Luck Danny.

JJ
 
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