suikeisuru
Don Juan
Can anyone think of a good neg hit for a hot chick with acne? I already # closed and want to have something up my sleeve for our get together next week.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
HB9 with acne. What does that even mean? LOLOriginally posted by suikeisuru
OK OK.
She is a HB9 BTW.
How can you ever say that a girl with acne is a HB9? The ratingsystem is being severly misused in this forum.Originally posted by suikeisuru
OK OK.
She is a HB9 BTW.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Those aren't neg hits, they're insults.Originally posted by blueangel83
"Neg hits" USUALLY don't work on me because I end up dissing the guy 50 times worse.![]()
One guy said something like I look like Michael Jackson
Another guy said I look like a candidate for "Ringu 2"![]()
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The way I see it, guys tend to have two different types of 1-10 scales.Originally posted by Deus ex Pianoforte
Simple, he considers her a 9 in SPITE of her acne. Maybe she would be a 10 without it. We're rating human beings on a scale of 1-10. If they were PERFECT (i.e., your definition of a 10), then they wouldn't be a human being anymore, now would they? Ratings are all a matter of one's own standards...for example, Elisha Cuthbert being an 8?:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: 6.5, 7's being generous.
Negs have to have an element of compliment about them. They must be ambiguous in that respect.Originally posted by blueangel83
Hit me with a neg, I want to know exactly what you are talking about.![]()
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.