You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I asked you something totally different.. If I play hot-cold, when I go hot, wouldn't that make her go cold? Looking forward to an answer..AMDG said:It means it's natural for a girl to try to control the frame. Post here if you have moved from the message realm to the physical one
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Well.. going like that to another city where you have nobody except for that girl seems to be a little obvious.. it makes no sense to act cold and in the same time travel 200 km for her.. Other way I wouldn't mind to go..Kailex said:
It is, getting to the hanging thing is harderpvf94 said:I gave you sound advice, I didn't realize it was THAT far of a distance. I thought maybe 50 miles tops lol.
I've never done long distance relationships, so I will not give any input on that one. As it will just be my opinion/thoughts rather then experience.
Good luck though with whatever you end up doing. (some of my advice is still applicable when you hang)
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You're doing fine so far and there's enough noise on this thread to make you confused (pvf94 post was right on).Macki said: