I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I asked you something totally different.. If I play hot-cold, when I go hot, wouldn't that make her go cold? Looking forward to an answer..AMDG said:It means it's natural for a girl to try to control the frame. Post here if you have moved from the message realm to the physical one
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Well.. going like that to another city where you have nobody except for that girl seems to be a little obvious.. it makes no sense to act cold and in the same time travel 200 km for her.. Other way I wouldn't mind to go..Kailex said:
It is, getting to the hanging thing is harderpvf94 said:I gave you sound advice, I didn't realize it was THAT far of a distance. I thought maybe 50 miles tops lol.
I've never done long distance relationships, so I will not give any input on that one. As it will just be my opinion/thoughts rather then experience.
Good luck though with whatever you end up doing. (some of my advice is still applicable when you hang)
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You're doing fine so far and there's enough noise on this thread to make you confused (pvf94 post was right on).Macki said: