You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I asked you something totally different.. If I play hot-cold, when I go hot, wouldn't that make her go cold? Looking forward to an answer..AMDG said:It means it's natural for a girl to try to control the frame. Post here if you have moved from the message realm to the physical one
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well.. going like that to another city where you have nobody except for that girl seems to be a little obvious.. it makes no sense to act cold and in the same time travel 200 km for her.. Other way I wouldn't mind to go..Kailex said:
It is, getting to the hanging thing is harderpvf94 said:I gave you sound advice, I didn't realize it was THAT far of a distance. I thought maybe 50 miles tops lol.
I've never done long distance relationships, so I will not give any input on that one. As it will just be my opinion/thoughts rather then experience.
Good luck though with whatever you end up doing. (some of my advice is still applicable when you hang)
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You're doing fine so far and there's enough noise on this thread to make you confused (pvf94 post was right on).Macki said: