"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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that girl i met at the bar, originally had a date with her planned for this monday, called her up to confirm and she didnt pick up (i know tis her number) and so i texted and left a message asking her to call me when she could. this is not the first time she hasn't replied so i want to give her one last chance going out with me on monday... what's a good ultimatum i could give her??? i need to give it to her by tomorrow or latest monday morning... cos we're originally supposed to go out in the afternoon.. i wanna give her one last chance before i cut her off... guys out there, give me a good way to put it!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If she ignores you then she isn't interested, move on, don't give her any more chances. I have waited for chicks many times and it always ends up the same.
 
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yeah sounds like she flaked out on you. happens to the best of us. gracefully accept it, and move on to other women :)
 
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Why is it that important that you confirm the date? Maybe it's a cultural thing, so maybe i'm completely off track here.

In my eyes this ultimatum thing appears WAY too desperate. Just look at her actions. If she doesn't show up and doesn't find some really good excuse and really makes up for it NEXT her.

Please don't go threatening the girls that you would leave her if she doesn't give you the attention. Wether she is a ***** or you are not getting her attention, which could be a hint at looking at your actions and appearance. In either case, NEXT her. SO WHAT?

At least that's my opinion.

Isn't it one of the first things to learn on our way to be DJs that desperation and oneintis are the single most important mistakes made?

MoveYourA$$... and your brain will follow
 
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Listen Jakeboy,,,,,,, If it was someone she really liked, she would stay near the phone so she won't miss your call.

Another thing, don't make a date out of the blue once you meet someone, take down their phone number and then call them up and then make a date on the spot. Saves you trouble.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ah DJDamage, thats a sound piece of advice.

Isn't it one of the first things to learn on our way to be DJs that desperation and oneintis are the single most important mistakes made?
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hey MoveYourAss, i'm not desperate and i don't have oneitis for this chick. i just hate people who flake out on me with no cause. well, i guess in the end its up to the individual, one guy gave me the advice of "three strikes and you're out" but i guess the big picture is i gotta NEXT her.

but if anyone can answer this question, i would be hella glad.
why in the world would a woman willingly agree to go out with you and suddenly ignore you in the end and flake out on you. guys who've been in this position before... do tell!
 
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As DJ was saying, there can be 101 reasons why someone skips out. The problem here is likely that you have no history with her, so making a date with her doesn't have much significance to her.
If she is attractive (or socially very active) she probably gets alot of offers, and if someone comes along that seems more interesting than you, or she gets busy doing something she's interested in (like a hobby) your 'date' fades from memory.
 
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yup i guess thats very true... so i guess this thread is done for... screw that biatch.thanks for all the advice guys! NEXXXXXXXXXXXT.
 
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Don't waste your time and money!!

Hey jakeboy,
she is giving you turnrounds and you are still sticking around her?

throw her out of your life like a used condom in the dustbin.

don't make it that much imp.

enjoy and **** her best friend .

Tuffy
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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wow. she finally decided to reply. she said :'hey jake, sorry i have been really really busy these past few days.. i have to reconfirm tomorrow with you, call me later"

and i told her that i would call her the next morning, told her to go do her thang and get some rest today...

sudden turnaround of events. (again) so i'll go along with it one final time and see what she say tomorrow morning... doubt she'd be too much of a bit*h... but i want to see what she says.

will let you guys know
 
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I DONT F-ING BELIEVE IT. SHE TOTALLY FLAKED ON ME AT THE LAST MOMENT!!! called her in the morning, no answer, so i left her a message asking her to call me when she wakes. no reply. ****. NEXXXXXXXXXXXT. but wait, if she calls apologizing tomorrow or the day after... what can i say to her to let her know i don't like to be treated like the crap she takes me for?
 
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