Need to get out of relationship but can't **** above 6/10s (TL;DR)

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When coming to University I decided to stay in relationship with 8.5/10 from back home who *gasp* ended up coming to the same college as me. She was a virgin before me, she is very attractive and also very sweet (naive and innocent), however we have incompatible senses of humour and share few interests but her clinginess (and my desire for her ass) has helped maintain the relationship. Obviously this (going to the same college) sparked a lot of concerns at first but I convinced myself it would be fine as I was acting like a stupid beta faggot.

Obviously it wasn't fine, I found the first few weeks of uni stressful as f*ck surrounded with paranoia and depression as other guys hit on her and I consequently spent too much time going out to town with her as a guardian (and her new college friends) and therefore not meeting any new people myself or socialising with my new college buddies.

Soon I realised I didn't really have any other friends apart from her, I was so obsessed with seeing her and overcome with jealousy that I had forgotten everything I've learned on this site. Immediately I realised things had to change.

Immediately I get tinder and also start hooking up with other girls behind her back, because f*ck it I'm 19 and decided I needed to spin plates before committing to breaking up with her. I bang 3 girls who I meet in clubs as one night stands, all ranging from HB5 to HB7 and who seem a lot more experienced and mature than her (with her being a virgin this is a given).

This makes me feel a lot better and it's refreshing to actually hang around with cool girls who share a similar sense of humour to me and have a vibrant personality with some attitude as opposed to my current gf which feels like ****ing a pretty doll who says very little and wants you to sensitively look after her constantly.

I don't think my GF is a bad girl or means to depress me, she's just a little naive and I'm her first boyfriend, yet I constantly find myself feeling annoyed after I've banged her, like the only reason I'm going out with her is because of her looks and I have no real desire to act as a boyfriend or guardian type figure to her like she expects of me.

Obviously if you can see where this is going, then it's apparent I have an attachment issue to this girl based on the fact that so far I havn't been able to secure a source of sex from someone who is as attractive as her. The most attractive girl of the 3 I cheated with caused me to develop oneitis and I scared her off with my constant ****ing messaging over the next week or so. My god I am deprived.

Anyway, as of now I've been going to the gym regularly and studying hard, and trying to see my girlfriend much less, it has become more of a chore to me. I am still banging 1 of the 3 girls occasionally behind my gf's back but she has become more of a friend to me. I'm trying to meet potential male friends as much as possible but I feel as though I've left it too late now as it's hard to immerse myself into already established groups and am considered just going my own way.

I would appreciate any advice on how to end this relationship and when, as currently I feel as though a lot of changes/improvements need to be made first otherwise Im gonna be stuck in no mans land with no male friends or social status and no sex at all. Help direct me guys

-burnrock (Thanks!)

TL;DR
dating 8.5/10 at uni
boring as **** but sexy virgin clingy qt3.14 (what i thought i wanted)
waste first weeks of uni with her instead of making friends/wingmen/**** buddies
eventually realise i've ****ed up
cheat on her with uglier yet more fun girls
don't know what I prefer
(am i asking how can i **** people in the first year of uni? who knows)
what do/when do
 

El Payaso

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So let me get this straight. You were afraid of your gf cheating on you with the guys hitting on her so you go hit on other girls behind her back and cheat on her.

That makes a lot of sense.
 

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You have some serious mentality issues.

Strike 1 acting AFC as hell being jealous and insecure

Strike 2 CHEATING as a "pre-emptive strike"

Strike 3 staying with said girl even though you are cheating on her and unhappy.

Here's the advice

GET OUT OF THE DATING MARKET

You have very serious mental problems which need looking at, and dating is the last thing someone with your level of issues should be doing.
 

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As I've advised others, I don't know why anyone goes to university (as a teenager/young adult) with a partner.

I was in a similar position when I was starting uni. I did the bastard thing and dumped my gf the day before I left.

Similar girl, hot chick, massive rack sweet and innocent. Just not much drive or ambition. She wanted to be married by 24, kids by 25 or whatever. And as far as I know, she's achieved all that. Good for her. Best choice I made by both of us.

To be honest, you should just finish it, set her free. As you say, you aren't very compatible and that will get old, as soon as you get bored of the sex. Which will happen. Anyone who tells you a woman's personality counts for nothing is talking horsesh!t.
 

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So let me get this straight. You were afraid of your gf cheating on you with the guys hitting on her so you go hit on other girls behind her back and cheat on her.

That makes a lot of sense.
You have some serious mentality issues.

Strike 1 acting AFC as hell being jealous and insecure

Strike 2 CHEATING as a "pre-emptive strike"

Strike 3 staying with said girl even though you are cheating on her and unhappy.

Here's the advice

GET OUT OF THE DATING MARKET

You have very serious mental problems which need looking at, and dating is the last thing someone with your level of issues should be doing.
This is pure BPD behavior
Nah, I've always been spinning plates. Seeing other girls behind her back was just something I did to see if I was missing out. Spending so much time with just her had made me forget about how better other girls are and the importance of friendship. If anything, I felt close to insanity during the first weeks of uni where I'd been having no male on male contact and spending all my time with this child-like girl.

It just so happened that I found it easier to meet and befriend girls than other men because there tends to be more girls at University and the male friendship groups seemed already well established.
It's somewhat coincidental that I ended up ****ing these girls too but unsurprising as I felt like I was deprived of fun and at uni girls are horny as ****. I didn't do it as a measure of cheating, rather as spinning plates to test what my next move should have been.
 

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It just so happened that I found it easier to meet and befriend girls than other men...
Yeah, no sh!t. That's what happens when you download a dating app.

I didn't do it as a measure of cheating...
But you did it anyway.
 

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Jesus, I read stories like these and wish I was at a different university. At orientation, they told us that over 60% of people here remain sexually inactive or some ****. Like why the hell am I here?

OP, why haven't you told your girl that she needs to try being a little more mature and exciting or something? That's really sh!tty of you to do this because it's going to jade her and turn her into one of those scumsucking lowlife bottom feeders of society. You have to at least give her an explanation. When she is young and naive, she should at least be more moldable. Besides, you said she is clingy to you, that means she will do what you want out of fear of losing you, or at least TRY to please you. Most chicks don't do that and probably never will.
 

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First get to your fvcking point.... I just read through your wall of text and I still have no idea what you are asking about.

Grow a pair of balls and tell her you want to date other people. And take charge of your social life.
 

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classic case of i don't want her , but don't want anyone else to have her

look if theres one thing I've learnt over the years is that if you don't properly click with a chick the physical attraction will just evaporate

both of you will just constantly be consumed by jealousy because all you have between you is your looks and you feel anyone can access that at any given time

you aren't in love with her , heck it sounds like you don't even really like her

sack her off and go find a chick that can make you laugh even if you have to sacrifice on the looks a bit , its worth it in the long run ......
 
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