"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Need some uh... kissing help

Nobeard

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Ok so today a girl invited me over to her place to hang out. During the couple hours i was there we spent time playing around (like tickling, poking, stroking, and hitting each other with pillows from the couch).

During this whole time i can't bring myself to kiss her, even though i know she wants me too. Its like i think about doing it, but something blocks me from going through with it.

I have never kissed a girl before and that might be it. However, i have never really had myself feel blocked the way i do.

I dont think its fear, because if i know we both want something there is no reason to be afraid of rejection.

It might be that i just find going mouth-to-mouth with another human a tad disgusting. I do feel that way, but if thats the problem i need to get over it.

So any info that you think would help me in this situation would be greatly appreciated...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lordson

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its not disgusting once you get in there, trust me

dont use too much tongue, common rookie mistake. dont ram it down there either

keep the toungue sparse and light. use mainly lips
 

Nobeard

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ARrocket said:
It is fear. Fear of being inexperienced. I have the same problem.
Huh i never thought of it that way. I guess thats probably what is stopping me i just didn't realize it ><.

So besides going out and actually kissing someone, is there anyway to help me feel a bit more experienced...
 

lordson

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dont analyse too much

your just wasting your precious time out of your day here

you will kiss

you will be bad at first, but then better

end of story.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Nobeard

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Yeah i guess your right, i just gotta do it thanks for the help
 

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It might be that I just find going mouth-to-mouth with another human a tad disgusting.
I guess that would depend on who the other human is.

But if you feel that way about mouth-to-mouth then you're REALLY going to hate sex. But trust me, it is actually more fun than a pillow fight.

Okay, seriously... It seems to me that all this tickling, poking, stroking, and hitting each other with pillows, is actually you two being physical with each other as perhaps some sort of substitute for working out your physical desires, hmmm?

Put the pillow down, and get close to her, pull her into you, put your face in hers, big smile, look in her eyes and tell her you want her to show you how she likes to be kissed.
 

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if you're overanalyzing this much, it IS fear

just make it happen and mirror her. every girl kisses how she wants to be kissed so just do what she does back to her
 

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relax sit a little closer gesture her to move closer if she's playfull and give short sweet kisses... do not go licking of her entire face ! big rookie mistake.. I see it all the time and damn there is nothing more funny than seeing that
 

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You're overanalyzing like hell. Stop that sh*t.

You're just scared of rejection. If she wants it, she won't tell. And for God's sake DO NOT ASK!!! Then you'll really look like an AFC.

If the attraction's there, and you can tell she wants it, JUST DO IT! Strike while the iron's hot! Don't let it get cold, or I hope you prepared your hand! And when you kiss, don't use the tongue unless she does first. And don't exchange too much spit.
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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