"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Need some uh... kissing help

Nobeard

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Ok so today a girl invited me over to her place to hang out. During the couple hours i was there we spent time playing around (like tickling, poking, stroking, and hitting each other with pillows from the couch).

During this whole time i can't bring myself to kiss her, even though i know she wants me too. Its like i think about doing it, but something blocks me from going through with it.

I have never kissed a girl before and that might be it. However, i have never really had myself feel blocked the way i do.

I dont think its fear, because if i know we both want something there is no reason to be afraid of rejection.

It might be that i just find going mouth-to-mouth with another human a tad disgusting. I do feel that way, but if thats the problem i need to get over it.

So any info that you think would help me in this situation would be greatly appreciated...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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its not disgusting once you get in there, trust me

dont use too much tongue, common rookie mistake. dont ram it down there either

keep the toungue sparse and light. use mainly lips
 

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ARrocket said:
It is fear. Fear of being inexperienced. I have the same problem.
Huh i never thought of it that way. I guess thats probably what is stopping me i just didn't realize it ><.

So besides going out and actually kissing someone, is there anyway to help me feel a bit more experienced...
 

lordson

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dont analyse too much

your just wasting your precious time out of your day here

you will kiss

you will be bad at first, but then better

end of story.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yeah i guess your right, i just gotta do it thanks for the help
 

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It might be that I just find going mouth-to-mouth with another human a tad disgusting.
I guess that would depend on who the other human is.

But if you feel that way about mouth-to-mouth then you're REALLY going to hate sex. But trust me, it is actually more fun than a pillow fight.

Okay, seriously... It seems to me that all this tickling, poking, stroking, and hitting each other with pillows, is actually you two being physical with each other as perhaps some sort of substitute for working out your physical desires, hmmm?

Put the pillow down, and get close to her, pull her into you, put your face in hers, big smile, look in her eyes and tell her you want her to show you how she likes to be kissed.
 

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if you're overanalyzing this much, it IS fear

just make it happen and mirror her. every girl kisses how she wants to be kissed so just do what she does back to her
 

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relax sit a little closer gesture her to move closer if she's playfull and give short sweet kisses... do not go licking of her entire face ! big rookie mistake.. I see it all the time and damn there is nothing more funny than seeing that
 

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You're overanalyzing like hell. Stop that sh*t.

You're just scared of rejection. If she wants it, she won't tell. And for God's sake DO NOT ASK!!! Then you'll really look like an AFC.

If the attraction's there, and you can tell she wants it, JUST DO IT! Strike while the iron's hot! Don't let it get cold, or I hope you prepared your hand! And when you kiss, don't use the tongue unless she does first. And don't exchange too much spit.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

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