"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey guys,

Not really into 'picking up' chicks but want to learn how to be flirty without ruining a potential friendship. I met this girl off the net in a group and we really hit it off, good conversation a few good laughs. Its been about 2 weeks. Anyway we exchanged numbers and we're having a picnic next week.

Obviously I like her, but don't want to come on too hard in case she only sees me as a friend. I suck at flirting, I get uncomfortable saying/doing anything intimate such as complimenting something she's wearing.

And no I'm not into reverse psychology like ****y/funny. It's not my thing, I've tried it. And if that loses me a few girls along the way, then it's their loss. I'm not going to do something I don't want to for some chick I barely know.

Any tips or experiences? What are some good things I can do that are flirty but leave her wondering whether I'm just being friendly or actually flirting??
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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you should just man up and put your relationship with her on the line but

to start flirting....playfull kino, suttle innuendos, emphasize your relationship by standing a little closer holding eye contact a little longer and smiling more often
you aint gonna get it right the first time tho
 
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want to learn how to be flirty without ruining a potential friendship.

Why would you want to be friends with a woman who rejected you? What's in that for you? Either she puts out, or you move on to another woman who does. "Friendship" with women who LJBF you is AFC.


I suck at flirting, I get uncomfortable saying/doing anything intimate such as complimenting something she's wearing.

Compliments are the lamest. most ineffective kind of flirting. You can mix in a sincere one here and there, but use them very sparingly, and compliment her in a non-sexual way. Wait until she's naked before you acknowledge noticing her body.


And no I'm not into reverse psychology like ****y/funny. It's not my thing, I've tried it.

You haven't tried it enough. Everyone is bad at something new, but you don't get better by giving up. Tease her in a fun way, make her laugh at her eccentricities. Get her laughing and she will start touching you in a playful way to flirt back herself.


I'm not going to do something I don't want to for some chick I barely know.

You mean put effort into getting better at what you're not good at now? If you insist upon not doing what works, then your success will suffer.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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How is c/f reverse psychology? Are women actually attracted to self conscious dullards? :confused:
 
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the hotter a chick the lower her self confidence is, hence why fugly fat chicks are for the most part arrogant, confident, ****y and look horrible in skirts. If most guys on here aimed at becoming more successful in life than with the ladies they would realize that they can sit back and have them approach you (if your goal is to round up a bull pin and choose and fvck who you want).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Charm&Style said:
the hotter a chick the lower her self confidence is, hence why fugly fat chicks are for the most part arrogant, confident, ****y and look horrible in skirts. If most guys on here aimed at becoming more successful in life than with the ladies they would realize that they can sit back and have them approach you (if your goal is to round up a bull pin and choose and fvck who you want).
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except the part about fat chicks looking nasty in skirts, all BS
 
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