Need some tips on casual flirting

[Magnatolia]

Hey guys,

Not really into 'picking up' chicks but want to learn how to be flirty without ruining a potential friendship. I met this girl off the net in a group and we really hit it off, good conversation a few good laughs. Its been about 2 weeks. Anyway we exchanged numbers and we're having a picnic next week.

Obviously I like her, but don't want to come on too hard in case she only sees me as a friend. I suck at flirting, I get uncomfortable saying/doing anything intimate such as complimenting something she's wearing.

And no I'm not into reverse psychology like ****y/funny. It's not my thing, I've tried it. And if that loses me a few girls along the way, then it's their loss. I'm not going to do something I don't want to for some chick I barely know.

Any tips or experiences? What are some good things I can do that are flirty but leave her wondering whether I'm just being friendly or actually flirting??

 

[saber]

you should just man up and put your relationship with her on the line but

to start flirting....playfull kino, suttle innuendos, emphasize your relationship by standing a little closer holding eye contact a little longer and smiling more often
you aint gonna get it right the first time tho

 

[Bible_Belt]

want to learn how to be flirty without ruining a potential friendship.

Why would you want to be friends with a woman who rejected you? What's in that for you? Either she puts out, or you move on to another woman who does. "Friendship" with women who LJBF you is AFC.


I suck at flirting, I get uncomfortable saying/doing anything intimate such as complimenting something she's wearing.

Compliments are the lamest. most ineffective kind of flirting. You can mix in a sincere one here and there, but use them very sparingly, and compliment her in a non-sexual way. Wait until she's naked before you acknowledge noticing her body.


And no I'm not into reverse psychology like ****y/funny. It's not my thing, I've tried it.

You haven't tried it enough. Everyone is bad at something new, but you don't get better by giving up. Tease her in a fun way, make her laugh at her eccentricities. Get her laughing and she will start touching you in a playful way to flirt back herself.


I'm not going to do something I don't want to for some chick I barely know.

You mean put effort into getting better at what you're not good at now? If you insist upon not doing what works, then your success will suffer.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

How is c/f reverse psychology? Are women actually attracted to self conscious dullards?

 

[Charm&Style]

the hotter a chick the lower her self confidence is, hence why fugly fat chicks are for the most part arrogant, confident, ****y and look horrible in skirts. If most guys on here aimed at becoming more successful in life than with the ladies they would realize that they can sit back and have them approach you (if your goal is to round up a bull pin and choose and fvck who you want).

 

[WC2]

Talk about something enjoyable, be playful, and be different.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=116701

 

[ready123]

the hotter a chick the lower her self confidence is, hence why fugly fat chicks are for the most part arrogant, confident, ****y and look horrible in skirts. If most guys on here aimed at becoming more successful in life than with the ladies they would realize that they can sit back and have them approach you (if your goal is to round up a bull pin and choose and fvck who you want).

except the part about fat chicks looking nasty in skirts, all BS