"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Need some tips on casual flirting

Magnatolia

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Hey guys,

Not really into 'picking up' chicks but want to learn how to be flirty without ruining a potential friendship. I met this girl off the net in a group and we really hit it off, good conversation a few good laughs. Its been about 2 weeks. Anyway we exchanged numbers and we're having a picnic next week.

Obviously I like her, but don't want to come on too hard in case she only sees me as a friend. I suck at flirting, I get uncomfortable saying/doing anything intimate such as complimenting something she's wearing.

And no I'm not into reverse psychology like ****y/funny. It's not my thing, I've tried it. And if that loses me a few girls along the way, then it's their loss. I'm not going to do something I don't want to for some chick I barely know.

Any tips or experiences? What are some good things I can do that are flirty but leave her wondering whether I'm just being friendly or actually flirting??
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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saber

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you should just man up and put your relationship with her on the line but

to start flirting....playfull kino, suttle innuendos, emphasize your relationship by standing a little closer holding eye contact a little longer and smiling more often
you aint gonna get it right the first time tho
 

Bible_Belt

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want to learn how to be flirty without ruining a potential friendship.


Why would you want to be friends with a woman who rejected you? What's in that for you? Either she puts out, or you move on to another woman who does. "Friendship" with women who LJBF you is AFC.


I suck at flirting, I get uncomfortable saying/doing anything intimate such as complimenting something she's wearing.

Compliments are the lamest. most ineffective kind of flirting. You can mix in a sincere one here and there, but use them very sparingly, and compliment her in a non-sexual way. Wait until she's naked before you acknowledge noticing her body.


And no I'm not into reverse psychology like ****y/funny. It's not my thing, I've tried it.

You haven't tried it enough. Everyone is bad at something new, but you don't get better by giving up. Tease her in a fun way, make her laugh at her eccentricities. Get her laughing and she will start touching you in a playful way to flirt back herself.


I'm not going to do something I don't want to for some chick I barely know.

You mean put effort into getting better at what you're not good at now? If you insist upon not doing what works, then your success will suffer.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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How is c/f reverse psychology? Are women actually attracted to self conscious dullards? :confused:
 

Charm&Style

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the hotter a chick the lower her self confidence is, hence why fugly fat chicks are for the most part arrogant, confident, ****y and look horrible in skirts. If most guys on here aimed at becoming more successful in life than with the ladies they would realize that they can sit back and have them approach you (if your goal is to round up a bull pin and choose and fvck who you want).
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ready123

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Charm&Style said:
the hotter a chick the lower her self confidence is, hence why fugly fat chicks are for the most part arrogant, confident, ****y and look horrible in skirts. If most guys on here aimed at becoming more successful in life than with the ladies they would realize that they can sit back and have them approach you (if your goal is to round up a bull pin and choose and fvck who you want).
except the part about fat chicks looking nasty in skirts, all BS
 
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