So met this girl a couple weeks ago and asked to get a drink with her. A couple days before the date she messages me and tells me we can't have that drink because she doesn't want to lead me on. Ok. She's texted me a couple of times since then, and today was telling me she wanted her f-buddy to come over. And tried to convince me she was a good girl by saying she's only been with 4 guys (which is utter bs, but whatever). I invited her out for a drink again for tomorrow and she said she couldn't but could next week. I don't care about getting into a relationship with her because apparently she's obsessed with her ex. But I wouldn't mind having some with her, because she sounds like a kinky girl (she was talking about some pretty sexual things, ie wants to have a 3some with a guy and another girl). I don't get the whole telling me about her f-buddy, whether that's a bad thing or not (though doubt it's a good thing). If you need any other info to help let me know.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Need some simple advice for getting with this chick (she's obsessed with her ex)?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
lol, well obviously she didn't just come out and tell me that she had a f-buddy coming over. What she said was that she hanging out with a guy that she sometimes hangs out with when she's single. So seeing as I'm not a complete idiot I put 2 and 2 together, and teased her about her "friend" a bit.Tiguere said:either that or she is taking you for a fool. telling you she wants her **** buddy to come over i would had put her in place.
In other news I had this girl randomly ask me to get on msn and send her pics. Sent her a couple of pics of me (most of just the chest up) and she says to send her body pics (I agree with a requirement, she has to send me some after). So I do that (because I feel pretty good about my body, although there is always room to improve), and she tells me that I'm not bad looking (oh, what a wonderous compliment, lol) but it's too bad I'm only looking for a toy. I just say I'm looking to have a good time right now, and I'm pretty laid back and take things as they come. I tell her it's her turn with the pics and she sends me about 10 (and from what I see she has a nice ass). She logs off after asking me if she's hot or sexy (although I didn't even get time to answer), so I just tell her I'd better see her sexy ass next week.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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You've asked her for a drink she said no, you want to **** her, but shes probably ****ing somebody else. People always want what they cant have, and you seem to be too available at the moment. Cut the contact.
she said no the first time (well actually she cancelled after saying yes), but a couple days ago she said she wanted to get together next week.todays_news said:You've asked her for a drink she said no, you want to **** her, but shes probably ****ing somebody else. People always want what they cant have, and you seem to be too available at the moment. Cut the contact.