"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Need some serious help

jballa24

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Ok I'm new here and I know it says to read the bible before posting but i have a sorta different problem. I am 23 yrs old and I haven't had sex in 1 yr and 7 months. It's not that I haven't gotten the opportunity to because i have. Here's the problem, I can't seem to perform when the situation arises. This has happened to me once in highschool when i was with my gf but it went away. Then I had casual sex for 2 yrs before joining the army.(although I always thought about it before having sex with a new partner but it seemed i could block it out pretty good.) When I joined the army I was stationed in korea for a yr on a all male base. About 7 months into the tour i had sex with some random girl and i was really drunk. About 2 weeks later i meet this girl and i become interested, We go out and drink go back to her place and bam can't get it up. Ever since then I've had trouble in bed. I need to know what to do to get over this bull ****. It's like I can't control my erections.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ok...

so your saying you cannot stay erect for sex?

go see your DOCTOR!
 

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I HAVE BEEN AND ALL THEY DO IS PRESCRIBE ME VIAGRA AND TELL ME IT'S IN MY HEAD. I JUST NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO TO GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
 

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Originally posted by jballa24
I HAVE BEEN AND ALL THEY DO IS PRESCRIBE ME VIAGRA AND TELL ME IT'S IN MY HEAD. I JUST NEED TO KNOW WHAT TO DO TO GET IT OUT OF MY HEAD.
Are you happy with who you are? Seriously, are you happy? Do you have the personal success that you wish? What are you hobbies, your passions, your personal dreams?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HONESTLY I HAVEN'T BEEN HAPPY IN A LONG TIME. I MEAN I HAVE MOMENTS WHEN I'M HAPPY BUT I MOSTLY I DISSAPOINT MYSELF. I NEED TO GET THE NEGATIVES OUT OF MY HEAD!! IT'S LIKE IM TOO HARD ON MYSELF BUT AT THE SAME TIME IM NOT DOING THE RIGHT THINGS.
 
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