"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Need some serious help, f***ed up bad

BPH

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Ok so you guys may have read my journal about Carla and Cassidy...

I was talking to my friend Nick about pick-up stuff, cus he's pretty good, and I sent this text:

"But now its down to f***ing carla this weekend or waiting to chill with cassidy in like a week to possibly f*** her"

Problem is...I sent it to Cassidy, not Nick. And didn't realize it until she texted back "Wtf does that mean".

Please help me, lol I really messed up right here and have no idea what to say or do.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SgtSplacker

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Either say your friend took your phone and was messing with you or forget about those chicks. Thats a mortal sin there bud...

I used to say things like that to my buddies but learned that things like that are best left unsaid or at least said with alot of tact. Your 17 so I understand the need to talk sheit with your friends. Me I never say anything incriminating because you never know whos listening or who will hear about it. Some people are desperate to have something to talk about with some girls, I know people that will give you up just to have something to talk about. That same guy your talking to may think your a player now, then one day you meet his sister who is absolutely gorgeous and the guy thinks your a scumbag. Grats! Real story bro...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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h1v0lt4g3

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BPH said:
It's really that hopeless huh?
You just told one chick you had two choices:
1) Have sex with a girl that isn't her
2) Not have sex with the girl you texted, but hang out with her in hopes of sexing her later

Those aren't very hopeful/optimistic/nice things to say to a girl.

So, your best bet is to lie your @ss off and say your buddy stole your phone and started texting people, or hope that Cassidy doesn't tell Carla what you said and just sex Carla.
 

h1v0lt4g3

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Also, the most important lesson you need to walk away with:
1) Don't say anything in written form that you want someone else to read. Because the person you want least to read it will most likely end up reading it.

I texted one of my friends how much of a douchebag my superior was on the student newspaper. Except, I didn't text my friend. I texted the friend of the guy who was my superior. Lesson learned.
 

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Thanks but tell me what you guys think of these options:

1. I act like I didn't have my phone on me during school, and just got home from the gym (which I did)

2. Admit that I was asking my friend for some advice because I'm dealing with 2 gorgeous girls

Any of those work? Because I don't think lying is gonna work very long...considering we all 3 go to the same school.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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h1v0lt4g3

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BPH said:
Thanks but tell me what you guys think of these options:

1. I act like I didn't have my phone on me during school, and just got home from the gym (which I did)

2. Admit that I was asking my friend for some advice because I'm dealing with 2 gorgeous girls

Any of those work? Because I don't think lying is gonna work very long...considering we all 3 go to the same school.
1) What is the point of that? Someone texted her from your phone. You're better off lying your @ss off and saying someone else took it.

2) There was no advice asking there. These girls aren't morons.
 

h1v0lt4g3

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BPH said:
Wow I've got problems...

Ok so now my friend who liked this girl, the one who said it was ok with him to pursue me...I guess she told him what I texted her, and wants to fight me...
Can you beat him? :D

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As a followup, maybe just apologize and say it was a joke meant for a friend, and play it off with them. This might be your best bet.
 

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Well thanks for trying to help guys...if you want to find out what happened I updated the journal I have in the High School section. Had to make this account because I reached a daily post count of 10...
 

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another reason to say fvck texting! lol
 

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Why didn't you follow the other guys advice? Just say you didn't have your phone on you and someone else was messing around. Probably too late now. Also your friend's a pr1ck don't talk to him anymore.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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