"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Need some serious help, f***ed up bad

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Ok so you guys may have read my journal about Carla and Cassidy...

I was talking to my friend Nick about pick-up stuff, cus he's pretty good, and I sent this text:

"But now its down to f***ing carla this weekend or waiting to chill with cassidy in like a week to possibly f*** her"

Problem is...I sent it to Cassidy, not Nick. And didn't realize it until she texted back "Wtf does that mean".

Please help me, lol I really messed up right here and have no idea what to say or do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Either say your friend took your phone and was messing with you or forget about those chicks. Thats a mortal sin there bud...

I used to say things like that to my buddies but learned that things like that are best left unsaid or at least said with alot of tact. Your 17 so I understand the need to talk sheit with your friends. Me I never say anything incriminating because you never know whos listening or who will hear about it. Some people are desperate to have something to talk about with some girls, I know people that will give you up just to have something to talk about. That same guy your talking to may think your a player now, then one day you meet his sister who is absolutely gorgeous and the guy thinks your a scumbag. Grats! Real story bro...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BPH said:
It's really that hopeless huh?
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You just told one chick you had two choices:
1) Have sex with a girl that isn't her
2) Not have sex with the girl you texted, but hang out with her in hopes of sexing her later

Those aren't very hopeful/optimistic/nice things to say to a girl.

So, your best bet is to lie your @ss off and say your buddy stole your phone and started texting people, or hope that Cassidy doesn't tell Carla what you said and just sex Carla.
 
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Also, the most important lesson you need to walk away with:
1) Don't say anything in written form that you want someone else to read. Because the person you want least to read it will most likely end up reading it.

I texted one of my friends how much of a douchebag my superior was on the student newspaper. Except, I didn't text my friend. I texted the friend of the guy who was my superior. Lesson learned.
 
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Thanks but tell me what you guys think of these options:

1. I act like I didn't have my phone on me during school, and just got home from the gym (which I did)

2. Admit that I was asking my friend for some advice because I'm dealing with 2 gorgeous girls

Any of those work? Because I don't think lying is gonna work very long...considering we all 3 go to the same school.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BPH said:
Thanks but tell me what you guys think of these options:

1. I act like I didn't have my phone on me during school, and just got home from the gym (which I did)

2. Admit that I was asking my friend for some advice because I'm dealing with 2 gorgeous girls

Any of those work? Because I don't think lying is gonna work very long...considering we all 3 go to the same school.
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1) What is the point of that? Someone texted her from your phone. You're better off lying your @ss off and saying someone else took it.

2) There was no advice asking there. These girls aren't morons.
 
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BPH said:
Wow I've got problems...

Ok so now my friend who liked this girl, the one who said it was ok with him to pursue me...I guess she told him what I texted her, and wants to fight me...
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Can you beat him? :D

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As a followup, maybe just apologize and say it was a joke meant for a friend, and play it off with them. This might be your best bet.
 
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Well thanks for trying to help guys...if you want to find out what happened I updated the journal I have in the High School section. Had to make this account because I reached a daily post count of 10...
 
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another reason to say fvck texting! lol
 
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Why didn't you follow the other guys advice? Just say you didn't have your phone on you and someone else was messing around. Probably too late now. Also your friend's a pr1ck don't talk to him anymore.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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