"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Need some serious help, f***ed up bad

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Ok so you guys may have read my journal about Carla and Cassidy...

I was talking to my friend Nick about pick-up stuff, cus he's pretty good, and I sent this text:

"But now its down to f***ing carla this weekend or waiting to chill with cassidy in like a week to possibly f*** her"

Problem is...I sent it to Cassidy, not Nick. And didn't realize it until she texted back "Wtf does that mean".

Please help me, lol I really messed up right here and have no idea what to say or do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Either say your friend took your phone and was messing with you or forget about those chicks. Thats a mortal sin there bud...

I used to say things like that to my buddies but learned that things like that are best left unsaid or at least said with alot of tact. Your 17 so I understand the need to talk sheit with your friends. Me I never say anything incriminating because you never know whos listening or who will hear about it. Some people are desperate to have something to talk about with some girls, I know people that will give you up just to have something to talk about. That same guy your talking to may think your a player now, then one day you meet his sister who is absolutely gorgeous and the guy thinks your a scumbag. Grats! Real story bro...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BPH said:
It's really that hopeless huh?
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You just told one chick you had two choices:
1) Have sex with a girl that isn't her
2) Not have sex with the girl you texted, but hang out with her in hopes of sexing her later

Those aren't very hopeful/optimistic/nice things to say to a girl.

So, your best bet is to lie your @ss off and say your buddy stole your phone and started texting people, or hope that Cassidy doesn't tell Carla what you said and just sex Carla.
 
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Also, the most important lesson you need to walk away with:
1) Don't say anything in written form that you want someone else to read. Because the person you want least to read it will most likely end up reading it.

I texted one of my friends how much of a douchebag my superior was on the student newspaper. Except, I didn't text my friend. I texted the friend of the guy who was my superior. Lesson learned.
 
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Thanks but tell me what you guys think of these options:

1. I act like I didn't have my phone on me during school, and just got home from the gym (which I did)

2. Admit that I was asking my friend for some advice because I'm dealing with 2 gorgeous girls

Any of those work? Because I don't think lying is gonna work very long...considering we all 3 go to the same school.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BPH said:
Thanks but tell me what you guys think of these options:

1. I act like I didn't have my phone on me during school, and just got home from the gym (which I did)

2. Admit that I was asking my friend for some advice because I'm dealing with 2 gorgeous girls

Any of those work? Because I don't think lying is gonna work very long...considering we all 3 go to the same school.
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1) What is the point of that? Someone texted her from your phone. You're better off lying your @ss off and saying someone else took it.

2) There was no advice asking there. These girls aren't morons.
 
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BPH said:
Wow I've got problems...

Ok so now my friend who liked this girl, the one who said it was ok with him to pursue me...I guess she told him what I texted her, and wants to fight me...
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Can you beat him? :D

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As a followup, maybe just apologize and say it was a joke meant for a friend, and play it off with them. This might be your best bet.
 
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Well thanks for trying to help guys...if you want to find out what happened I updated the journal I have in the High School section. Had to make this account because I reached a daily post count of 10...
 
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another reason to say fvck texting! lol
 
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Why didn't you follow the other guys advice? Just say you didn't have your phone on you and someone else was messing around. Probably too late now. Also your friend's a pr1ck don't talk to him anymore.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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