“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Need some perspective on my 3y relationship

Divorced w 3

Divorced w 3

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BeExcellent said:
I'm with @Divorced w 3 on this one. OP has a family oriented girl who has been with him since age 24. She sounds pretty great as women go, but OP is actually still having oneitis for his ex, who cheated on him & had major flaws (but he was in love with her crazy shady ass nevertheless.)

That's the real issue. The current gf has invested 3 years of her life, helped buy a home etc., obviously the expectation is to end up married and raising kids in this jointly owned house.

And so OP needs to make a choice.

1. Grow up/mature and accept this current girl for the qualities she has and move forward toward a more serious relationship.

2. Cut her loose immediately so she can heal and be open to a man who will love HER and appreciate the value she brings to the table.

Keeping her in limbo and wasting her time is pretty cruel on OP's part, never mind the fact that he still has oneitis for his shady ex.

Guys. You gotta understand a couple of things. First, actual instant sexual chemistry between two people is very rare, and very addictive. And it often comes with crazy toxic emotional roller coaster which is even MORE addictive than the sexual chemistry (and much worse as far as getting over it.)

Many men here have married or had kids with that kind of crazy/shady and have the scars to show it.

Your best profile for the kind of sexual chemistry that suits a marriage or LTR is smoldering. It's a slow burn, it simmers but doesn't boil over. That's a chemistry that can grow deeper & richer through time. It allows trust and vulnerability to develop.

It requires a greater level of maturity and self development to recognize too.

OP you need to get serious or let her go. The current situation is mighty unfair to her and you are burning through her best years to attract a life partner who loves her, rather than seeing her as a distant 2nd place.
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‘The scars to show it’ - true words. Bias is unfortunately a real thing. Look at the way he refers to this woman who is seemingly head over heels for him - she sounds wonderful and he describes her as awful - I don’t see it
 
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What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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