"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Need some help with this one

SamMalone

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There is this girl at work that has been real interested in me. She keeps asking to come up and hang out but I've been playing hard to get and keep saying I'm busy (although I genuinly have been busy, but I probably could have made time). Anyways, I was thinking about asking her over this weekend, but I'm wondering if maybe the "tension" would be gone once I do so? Just typing this out I realize I'm overanalyzing this, but how would you guys go about it. Should I text her the day of or a few days before as well?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SamMalone

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Well I am done with school on thursday, so I was going to ask her over then.
 

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You're busy on weekends. Call from Mondays through Thursdays.
 

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Yeah, you "should" be busy on weekends, but be careful...you've already blown her off a couple of times...you need to be hard to get but not IMPOSSIBLE to get. Call her up and have a specific plan in mind, invite her, and have a blast.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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