"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need some help with my game

Remulak

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I've noticed lately that I get more results by not trying to hit on girls at all. When I just hang out and don't try, girls will try to talk to me. The problem is when I express any type of interest back they suddenly back off and don't want anything to do with me anymore. It's getting kind of annoying and don't know what to do. If i actually try they're not interested.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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There are a number of different reasons her initial attraction could fade. How do you come off to these girls? Are you demonstrating value and that you're an interesting guy? Are you talking slowly and loud enough?
 

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Remulak said:
I've noticed lately that I get more results by not trying to hit on girls at all. When I just hang out and don't try, girls will try to talk to me.
This is the way to do it. :up:

The problem is when I express any type of interest back they suddenly back off and don't want anything to do with me anymore. It's getting kind of annoying and don't know what to do.
Do you see the problem here? You've made yourself appear to me a man who isn't interested in them. Then when they go to investigate they find out you're just another chump who requires no effort to "conquer." Women enjoy a challenge.

How are you trying? And where exactly?

You should try to shift your perspective. Continue the attitude of not hitting on them, by minimizing what you say to them. Always turn the conversation back towards her, and make yourself appear to be moderately interested at best. (Like you're going to leave without warning.) Women love to talk, so let her.

When she asks you about yourself, keep it minimal. You make a lot of money, no matter what you do, (and you should be working towards that regardless.) You're an in demand person and she should be happy that shes talking to you.

The idea here is to minimize the amount of things you say or do so that she has less of a reason not to sleep with you. Women don't like to think of themselves as sluts and rationalize (or try to) everything. So the more you talk, the more of a chance she will find no interest in you.

Keep it simple, interesting and be ready to next.
 
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