"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Need some help with my game

Remulak

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I've noticed lately that I get more results by not trying to hit on girls at all. When I just hang out and don't try, girls will try to talk to me. The problem is when I express any type of interest back they suddenly back off and don't want anything to do with me anymore. It's getting kind of annoying and don't know what to do. If i actually try they're not interested.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Attractology

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There are a number of different reasons her initial attraction could fade. How do you come off to these girls? Are you demonstrating value and that you're an interesting guy? Are you talking slowly and loud enough?
 

Rhoto

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Remulak said:
I've noticed lately that I get more results by not trying to hit on girls at all. When I just hang out and don't try, girls will try to talk to me.
This is the way to do it. :up:

The problem is when I express any type of interest back they suddenly back off and don't want anything to do with me anymore. It's getting kind of annoying and don't know what to do.
Do you see the problem here? You've made yourself appear to me a man who isn't interested in them. Then when they go to investigate they find out you're just another chump who requires no effort to "conquer." Women enjoy a challenge.

How are you trying? And where exactly?

You should try to shift your perspective. Continue the attitude of not hitting on them, by minimizing what you say to them. Always turn the conversation back towards her, and make yourself appear to be moderately interested at best. (Like you're going to leave without warning.) Women love to talk, so let her.

When she asks you about yourself, keep it minimal. You make a lot of money, no matter what you do, (and you should be working towards that regardless.) You're an in demand person and she should be happy that shes talking to you.

The idea here is to minimize the amount of things you say or do so that she has less of a reason not to sleep with you. Women don't like to think of themselves as sluts and rationalize (or try to) everything. So the more you talk, the more of a chance she will find no interest in you.

Keep it simple, interesting and be ready to next.
 
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