neonlimited
Don Juan
okay heres the situation... met a rreally hot girl in the bowling alley tonight, got her number!! and i really wanna hook up with this girl!! but im no DJ lol, can someone help me out??
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
need some help here!! pls read!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I thought I would never have to say this, but....
Read the Bible!
Your answers are there, plus a lot of other hidden gold
Read the Bible!
Your answers are there, plus a lot of other hidden gold
Most logical thing for you right now would be to pick up yer phone and call her. You might want to consider waiting for a few days (two is enough, not three as some may say) and go along the lines of "we had fun at the alley, and today I was reading this movie review(or whatever kind of fun thing to do you came up with), so I figured you might want to tag along". Pick a thing to do and stick to it! Have a plan, a course of events etc.
You can probably manage things from there on. And yes, do read the DJBible.
Cheers.
You can probably manage things from there on. And yes, do read the DJBible.
Cheers.
I-am-someone
Senior Don Juan
You're not a DJ? Dude, you got her phonenumber... that alone makes you better than a lot of the guys on here... you may be more DJ than you think!
Nevertheless, read the bible
Nevertheless, read the bible
well you could do what the guys above said and read the bible. or you could just call her up, set a date, go on the date, do whatever, and continue on with what you want. when you do screw up or something, you can read the bible and then repeat the process. whichever works
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.