"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Need some help here fellas.

Some Call Me Tim

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I did something dumb. I've been on the website and reading the forum for a while now. I've been trying to get back in with my ex. So far it's been going pretty well, been teasing and trying out some kino with her. All responses have been positive so far.

Then, disaster struck. I made a bad joke about somebody who recently passed away. I thought I was being funny, but I've deeply offended her. I tried to play it off by texting her a nonchalant apology, but that didn't cut it.

Basically she's still furious. I need some advice from a successful DJ. Is this pursuit futile now? Can I fix this?

Appreciate the help in advance guys!

Tim
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sinnerman

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i think you should sincerely apologize and admit that it was in a bad taste and let some time pass...and in person or on phone not by text.
being ****y and funny is great but sometimes it has to be dialed down.
 

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It's okay to apologize, but then back off, leave her alone. Go into silent mode. Do not profusely apologize over and over again. You made a mistake, you apologize, you move on.

PS.

Try to move on with your life, instead of going backwards with an ex. I would never go back, only forward.
 

Some Call Me Tim

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I placed the call, and she didn't answer. My guess is that she's ignoring me, as she always has her phone with her.

Assuming she doesn't want to be contacted, how do I make this right?
 

trrush

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right for you? the right thing for you is to leave her alone and go find somebody else; if your ex comes back and chases you, you make her work for your attention.
but i have a gut feeling you won't listen, she'll say one thing and you'll run back to her, whipped and smiling.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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You want to get back with your ex. That's words I should never hear under any circumstances.
 
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