Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Need some help here fellas.

Some Call Me Tim

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I did something dumb. I've been on the website and reading the forum for a while now. I've been trying to get back in with my ex. So far it's been going pretty well, been teasing and trying out some kino with her. All responses have been positive so far.

Then, disaster struck. I made a bad joke about somebody who recently passed away. I thought I was being funny, but I've deeply offended her. I tried to play it off by texting her a nonchalant apology, but that didn't cut it.

Basically she's still furious. I need some advice from a successful DJ. Is this pursuit futile now? Can I fix this?

Appreciate the help in advance guys!

Tim
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sinnerman

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i think you should sincerely apologize and admit that it was in a bad taste and let some time pass...and in person or on phone not by text.
being ****y and funny is great but sometimes it has to be dialed down.
 

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It's okay to apologize, but then back off, leave her alone. Go into silent mode. Do not profusely apologize over and over again. You made a mistake, you apologize, you move on.

PS.

Try to move on with your life, instead of going backwards with an ex. I would never go back, only forward.
 

Some Call Me Tim

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I placed the call, and she didn't answer. My guess is that she's ignoring me, as she always has her phone with her.

Assuming she doesn't want to be contacted, how do I make this right?
 

trrush

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right for you? the right thing for you is to leave her alone and go find somebody else; if your ex comes back and chases you, you make her work for your attention.
but i have a gut feeling you won't listen, she'll say one thing and you'll run back to her, whipped and smiling.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PrettyBoyAJ

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You want to get back with your ex. That's words I should never hear under any circumstances.
 
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