"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Alright I'm black. I'm starting to rid myself of my AFC. I'm starting to hangout with more people especially white people they really like me cause I always make sure everyone having a good time but I think if I spendd to much time with one group like white people might see me as a sell out I don't know what to do. Should I stop hanging out with the white people or should I just try to hang out with everyone more
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Yea. I think that's what I'm going to do. But do you think it's okay to act different around diff groups a people cause I relized I act one way with certain groups of people. Like I can DJ all the white girls Iwant but I become a real AFC around Black chicks
 
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Originally posted by DA KID
Yea. I think that's what I'm going to do. But do you think it's okay to act different around diff groups a people cause I relized I act one way with certain groups of people. Like I can DJ all the white girls Iwant but I become a real AFC around Black chicks
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Haha wtf? Are you black or what?

If you are, it just means you feel unconfident around your own race because you feel they are higher, more superior then you are. It's simply genetics, but you can get over that. Practice makes perfect :)
 
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Originally posted by R3N3GAD3
Haha wtf? Are you black or what?

If you are, it just means you feel unconfident around your own race because you feel they are higher, more superior then you are. It's simply genetics, but you can get over that. Practice makes perfect :)
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Or its cause theyre loud and aggessive.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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It's not that I'm afraid of my race well kind of it's just the way they put me down cause of my childhood was a complete afc lil ***** and had no gfs or hooked up with anyone during middle school now they usually make fun of me a little bit. but it really cause I still act like a punk and afc that's why this summer I'm dedicating myself for a change. I don't think it's a problem with races maybe my confidence
 
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Originally posted by DA KID
I don't think it's a problem with races maybe my confidence
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Your confidence around races...


Think about that one :)
 
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Concentrate on becoming a strong minded young man who strives for success and approach others as human beings and not a color. you do have different attitudes amongst the races so you'll have to adapt as you see fit - just don't be a chump and act effeminate around women - assert your young manhood - all races respect this!

Treat everone with the respect that they deserve!
 
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Maybe it is because they're loud and aggressive..:p Haha. You have to put everything else aside and use the same skills you use to get white girls to get black girls. We're all people. Dig up that confidence and USE it. You can only learn so much by reading; You have to go up and experience to really learn anything.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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:) Perhaps you should be yourself, instead of black or white.

Oh, I'm insane, I know.
 
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Originally posted by Smooth as Anything
:) Perhaps you should be yourself, instead of black or white.

Oh, I'm insane, I know.
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I think that's crazy enough to work thx for all the help guys
 
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Black girls are crazier than white girls (most of the time in a good way ;-)

I knew a black guy who would DJ all the white girls but grow a ***** when he was around black girls. What I truly thought of that guy by seeing him in action everyday? He was a *****. He was all words and no action. That's what white women like -- all the words and false dreams described to them. Black women want to see some action. I definitely like their style!
 
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Originally posted by Ebach
Black girls are crazier than white girls (most of the time in a good way ;-)

I knew a black guy who would DJ all the white girls but grow a ***** when he was around black girls. What I truly thought of that guy by seeing him in action everyday? He was a *****. He was all words and no action. That's what white women like -- all the words and false dreams described to them. Black women want to see some action. I definitely like their style!
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Okay, lets stop from making outlandish generalizations....

If you make sure everyone's having a good time, EVERYONE will like you not just one race. If you want an example of everyone liking someone for what they bring, not their race, look at people like Pharrell. he's done songs for the gulliest, tighetest rappers, to the gayest weirdest boybands. And he is respected by everyone. He makes rap songs and groups and the goes and sings alto or in some high pitched girly voice dressed like some careless skateboarding rocker. he just doesn't care, perhaps that's what makes him so appealing?
 
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