You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You're right for sure but im just happy she texted me. It basically affirms everything i was thinking. Now ill prob not respond at all for a few months and maybe contact her down the line to see if i got another shot..by then ill surely devise some an interesting plan. I know her type. Afterall i did get her on that "date" without knowing practically anything about each other
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Ah, just saw this message. I have not responded yet but it's only been a day. (texted me yesterday morning). I don't know if I want to keep playing the guilty party and continue rehearsing that event. I honestly think its best to ignore her and move on for now as I really schmoozed the hell outta her afterwards because I thought I really f-ed everything up. This would have been one of my best plates yet looks/personality wise. You kinda have me second guessing my decision but I think once I kinda gave her the last texts, which were admittedly paragraphs, of a different tone (went from the giving attention,schmoozing, softening up) to a more studious, logical and sincere. But also served as kinda an ultimatum like you know what, I can see you're not reciprocating, and you want to be left alone, so I'm goign to do exactly that kinda thing and give you your space.. I think the indefiniteness of that, and her not knowing what that meant kinda had her thinking. I think shes probing me. If I do respond, it might be something like "I get it."
Hey thanks for running this by your old lady. I appreciate it. Great to have insight from someone who's probably more experienced than all of us in these matters of the female brain haha. I haven't responded yet but I'll do just that. I really don't expect anything to come out of it right now but I guess we'll see. I don't think too many people would be interested in this but I'll try to post an update in here anyways
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.