"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Westwind

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Lately i've been pretty down about stuff. Like it seems like everyone is dating someone at work, school, on the street where ever it just seems like everyone is with someone. And i'm not. I feel like a loser kinda.

Also i haven't really been partying lately, that just adds on. I can't really seem to find any parties to go to.

At first i just kept sayin to myself it will get better, but it doesn't. I'm actually just really pissed about all of this ****.

I need some action you know, and i just can't seem to find anyone.


Can someone throw a suggestion or something to help. Thanks:(
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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collegeEJ

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I seem to be in a bit of a slump too.

I had a girl come over for a little while earlier, but it doesn't seem like she's as into me as she was a month ago.

I could have gone with a friend to see the fight at his parents' house, but I didn't go and haven't answered my pnone tonight.

I just am feelin' a little down in the dumps if you know what I mean due to a couple girls I've been gamin' not showin as much interest the last few days (not responding to text, etc.)

Anyways, things always get better, and when it does I always wonder why I was feeling upset when I knew all along things would get better anyways.
 

BCOMusic

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Spend some time on yourself and getting your life together. Don't worry about why you don't have a girl, because the girl is not the meaning.

Yourself, and making sure you have inner game is the only thing.

Inner game is a thirst for life. A passion for life and waking up every day, loving it, spreading joy to everyone around you :cool:

up the time you spend on yourself by 5, downgrade the time you spend on women by 5, and you will have 10 girls knocking at your door...

have some faith, it really works
 

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it seems like everyone is dating someone .... And i'm not. I feel like a loser

There have been a lot of posts about this lately. You have to learn to be happy by yourself, and that starts with not defining yourself and your status by the hb on your arm or lack of one at the moment. Then you're confident and fun, which is what gets girls.

More importantly, if you can be happy alone, then you keep your willingness to walk away, which will keep you from AFC'ing up your relationships when you do happen into them.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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