MyOwnKryptonite
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Alright so my gf's mom is about to pass away. How can I help her along with this or what can I do? For the first time in my life I feel useless
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mind_Body_Soul
Senior Don Juan
I'm sorry. This is a very difficult situation, but I think you need to let your g/f steer this. People will react to situations like these in one of two ways... Either they seek comfort from other people and will look for encouragement, support, etc. from the people close to them.
Other people need time alone to sort things out on their own. Not knowing your g/f I can't say which she is, but let her guide it. If she comes to you, listen to her, comfort her, make sure she knows you are there for her.
On the other hand, if she doesn't call you, ignores you, etc. don't pressure her. Give her all the time she needs. Maybe send her a quick text or call to say "Hey, I know you need your time, but I'm here if you need anything." Just don't be up her a$$.
Other people need time alone to sort things out on their own. Not knowing your g/f I can't say which she is, but let her guide it. If she comes to you, listen to her, comfort her, make sure she knows you are there for her.
On the other hand, if she doesn't call you, ignores you, etc. don't pressure her. Give her all the time she needs. Maybe send her a quick text or call to say "Hey, I know you need your time, but I'm here if you need anything." Just don't be up her a$$.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Keep it simple and just tell her "I'm here for you, let me know if there is anything I can do to help." If she needs your help she'll ask, is she doesn't ask she'll at least know that you care.
MyOwnKryptonite
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Yeah, Im definitly not up her ass and she knows that Im here for her, shes said that shes happy that Im hear for her. I dont ever bring up the subject, and when she does I do little as possible to make it seem like I know how shes feeling. i've basically just been trying to keep her in good spirits as of late, and it seems like its working, but my mentality is really weird, i jsut feel like im not doing enough, but I definitly dont press anything on her, Im not stupid
Thanks for the advice, I just needed to make sure
Thanks for the advice, I just needed to make sure
MyOwnKryptonite
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Is it normal for a girl's sexual drive to increase in a time of saddness?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Master Bates
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:crackup: What a boyfriend.MyOwnKryptonite said:Is it normal for a girl's sexual drive to increase in a time of saddness?
MyOwnKryptonite
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no no no, I didnt mean it like that.Master Bates said::crackup: What a boyfriend.
It seems like she is being more sexual than usual. I didnt know if this is something that usually happens.
I wasnt asking this to see if I was goign to be getting luckier than usual
LA_Chico
Senior Don Juan
I would put that quote in my sig bro, but I am too self centered