MyOwnKryptonite
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Alright so my gf's mom is about to pass away. How can I help her along with this or what can I do? For the first time in my life I feel useless
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Mind_Body_Soul
Senior Don Juan
I'm sorry. This is a very difficult situation, but I think you need to let your g/f steer this. People will react to situations like these in one of two ways... Either they seek comfort from other people and will look for encouragement, support, etc. from the people close to them.
Other people need time alone to sort things out on their own. Not knowing your g/f I can't say which she is, but let her guide it. If she comes to you, listen to her, comfort her, make sure she knows you are there for her.
On the other hand, if she doesn't call you, ignores you, etc. don't pressure her. Give her all the time she needs. Maybe send her a quick text or call to say "Hey, I know you need your time, but I'm here if you need anything." Just don't be up her a$$.
Other people need time alone to sort things out on their own. Not knowing your g/f I can't say which she is, but let her guide it. If she comes to you, listen to her, comfort her, make sure she knows you are there for her.
On the other hand, if she doesn't call you, ignores you, etc. don't pressure her. Give her all the time she needs. Maybe send her a quick text or call to say "Hey, I know you need your time, but I'm here if you need anything." Just don't be up her a$$.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Keep it simple and just tell her "I'm here for you, let me know if there is anything I can do to help." If she needs your help she'll ask, is she doesn't ask she'll at least know that you care.
MyOwnKryptonite
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Yeah, Im definitly not up her ass and she knows that Im here for her, shes said that shes happy that Im hear for her. I dont ever bring up the subject, and when she does I do little as possible to make it seem like I know how shes feeling. i've basically just been trying to keep her in good spirits as of late, and it seems like its working, but my mentality is really weird, i jsut feel like im not doing enough, but I definitly dont press anything on her, Im not stupid
Thanks for the advice, I just needed to make sure
Thanks for the advice, I just needed to make sure
MyOwnKryptonite
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Is it normal for a girl's sexual drive to increase in a time of saddness?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Master Bates
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:crackup: What a boyfriend.MyOwnKryptonite said:Is it normal for a girl's sexual drive to increase in a time of saddness?
MyOwnKryptonite
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no no no, I didnt mean it like that.Master Bates said::crackup: What a boyfriend.
It seems like she is being more sexual than usual. I didnt know if this is something that usually happens.
I wasnt asking this to see if I was goign to be getting luckier than usual
LA_Chico
Senior Don Juan
I would put that quote in my sig bro, but I am too self centered